To wish I had mum friends?

[loie]

It always upsets me at the minute. I see so many mums in their little groups or going for walks or having someone to call or come for coffee at the end of the day etc and I don't even have one.

How old is your little one?

I hear you OP. I have two... And one of them lives at the opposite end of the country so I do get to talk to her about our children but it's not the same.

I don't even mind not having mum friends for me but I feel like Im depriving my DC of friendships. Daft really.

It's hard being a parent and it can feel really lonely without mum friends.

Can you start going to baby/toddler groups?

Im with you OP- my actual friends are so far off having kids (still casually dating), and making mum friends is sooo hard.
They are either already in cliques or utter weirdos. I made none in baby classes, polite conversation but nothing further. The odd meet up we arranged got cancelled and the effort fizzled out.

@EssentialHummus I've got DS who is 2 and I'm 16 weeks pregnant.

@Tattoosandmemories definitely.

I've tried toddler/baby groups (although it's hard as I work through the week) and have never had so much as an interaction really.
I always feel a bit left out as all the other mums are of a similar age category and I'm only 19!

Have you tried mush op? I completely felt like you and struggled with pnd too, meeting people massively helped

It's for meeting mum friends. I met a really lovely mum who I see weekly and then I found out about lots of baby activities and events locally where I then made more friends x

Where are you from @loie ?
It can be tough to make friends! I made a few (local friends) on the mumsnet antenatal thread for the month my son was born. You could join the one for your new baby if you like? The others were from the free classes at the childrens' centre. I'm not great at making friends though - not sure what it is, I might appear closed off?

Same situation here. I moved to a small town from the city when I was seven months pregnant and I’m yet to meet a single friend here. Very isolating and lonely. I’ve also tried baby groups but nobody really spoke to me and tbf I didn’t speak to anyone either, far too anxious! I have tried the obligatory smile and nod at a few school Mum’s (I have primary school DC too) but a fair few of them don’t even acknowledge me which makes me feel shit.

I agree with joining your mumsnet antenatal group, they usually set up a Facebook group around now so just start a thread asking where everyone lives and chances are a few will be near you.

Where do you take your toddler, are you going to playgroups? Might be worth asking your health visitor about other local options.

I'm only 19! - bloody impossible for me in my 30s OP.

Where abouts in the country are you op?

I was also going to recommend joining your birth month group on MN and moving to the FB group. I think some naturally work out better than others, but mine is a lifeline, even if they are just in my phone rather than in real life.

If you'll have childcare for DC1, try going to baby classes with DC2. I found classes easier than more unstructured groups as I'm not great at mingling.

Ask your midwife if there's any young parents groups in your area - I'm sure you'd love to chat with women your own age rather than people 20 years older!

I have never been as lonely as when my DD was 0-3. At the time I thought the NCT had a lot to answer for. When my son was born I met some new people through baby/toddler groups. It happened gradually. Keep going to playgroups - you will meet some nice people. I have never had a ‘tribe’ just gradually made friend with a few nice people.