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Panda368 · 11/07/2019 10:00

I'm returning to work next week from Mat leave and they have cocked up in so many small ways I just want to get it off my chest before sending a very shitty email I'm likely to regret.

Biggest issue - they confused me coming in for 2 kit days with me fully returning so in my last pay check I was missing 2 weeks of maternity pay so they owe me nearly £300 - they have now told me this will be added into my pay for july which I wont see for another 2 weeks. I was counting on having a bit extra this month from my 2 KIT days to be able to afford my commute and parking for the next 2 weeks.

I was supposed to have 3 kit days last month my first was cancelled at less than 24 hours notice because my boss was in china - he knew the proposed dates for KIT day and the china trip would have been on the books for at least a month before this. I had to chase him 3 times the week of the KIT day before he even replied to say it was off the day before I was meant to go in.

A member of staff handed in their notice last month, boss immediately contacted me to ask if I could start back a month earlier than planned putting me in an awkward and stressful position of refuseing and feeling bad about it.

My baby is 8 months old. I dont even need to come back to work until the end of October, but he was chasing me to come in for a catch up back in January to find out my "plans for returning"

I'm so hacked off and frustrated with my boss already and feeling sad about returning to work next week I could cry.

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PooWillyBumBum · 11/07/2019 10:06

Going back to work is stressful as it is, so I can see why these things are piling on top of you but I’d give your boss the benefit of the doubt if he’s normally a good boss.

The mat leave/KIT day thing could’ve been an HR fuck up, and sounds like he’s been busy/under pressure with someone handing in their notice. Calling you may well have been a last resort after struggling to hire/getting pressured from above.

Not that you deserve any less than the best management and treatment, but there’s no point turning up next week angry. Try and take it in your stride and don’t let it poison your feelings about your work and boss.

PooWillyBumBum · 11/07/2019 10:08

That said if you’re confident enough it might be worth bringing up ringing you and asking you to come back early when it’s performance review season. Not sure about you but we (managers) ask for feedback from employees at that time and it might be a good idea to point out how that felt so he handles mat leave better in future?

Panda368 · 11/07/2019 10:19

If my boss was a nice person/decent manager I would probably be able to handle this.
Unfortunately he isn't. The reason the other member of staff left is because he didn't bring anyone in who was able to cover my work when I went on mat leave - instead he hired someone who essentially created more work and left 2 people to handle the very heavy workload of 3 people.

He is also rude, and a borderline bully to the person who quit. I've been wanting to come back thinking of him in a better light as I like my job but he keeps on reminding me in many ways how much of a workaholic sub human he is. I'm really not looking forward to going back now.

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