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To not want a home visit - can I get out of it easily?

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ReanimatedSGB · 11/07/2019 09:04

DS was recently diagnosed with autism (HFA), it's fine, we thought it was the case etc, and stuff like extra time in exams and the potential of a queue-jumper card for theme parks is all good.
But I have had an email saying we have been referred for a home visit. I do not want home visit. The house is a mess and I have huge amounts of work to do. Can I say no or at least ask why they want to come? No mention of it was made previously...

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Ihatemyseleffordoingthis · 11/07/2019 11:44

Who is proposing to visit and what is the purpose of the visit?
If you don't know, ask. It is absolutely your right to ask! Rude of them not to explain.
You could I would think easily say you'd prefer to meet at their workplace
I imagine though it is about meeting DS somewhere he feels comfortable. Nothing sinister.

Ginger1982 · 11/07/2019 15:35

When have they said they're coming?

Laniakea · 11/07/2019 16:03

You’re on a hiding to nothing if you think every bit of ‘support’ offered is worth grabbing on to - the overwhelming majority is not ... not evidenced based, badly delivered & administered, improperly (or not at all) personalised for the child and family. I say this as a veteran parent of an autistic child - at best the overwhelming majority is pointless & worst it is damaging. Identify what you need & want & don’t waste tine jumping through NHS & CAMHS hoops. It is a tick box exercise to them.

ReanimatedSGB · 11/07/2019 18:47

Just looked at the email again - someone who is a Family Support Co-ordinator for the National Autistic Society. I'll arrange to meet them in Costa or something instead. I still don't know what they actually want or are offering, but I'll try phoning in the morning.

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