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To feel slightly hurt by no birthday wishes

9 replies

dellacucina · 10/07/2019 22:29

I'm basically hoping to hear that I am.

I have a friend whom I text all the time. She does the same, though we rarely meet up despite living close to each other. We are good enough friends that we recently went away for a long weekend.

I'm going through serious relationship problems and I worry that I am too needy. Still, I think I take an interest in her life and I always am open to discussing concerns etc that she brings up

Today I messaged her something that was related to it being my birthday, though that wasn't really the point (it was something weird my husband said and did about my birthday). She didn't process it at first, but then wrote something like, "OH, it's your birthday. My brain isn't working right today."

She never said anything like happy birthday etc.

I am not angry, but I am anxious. Should I read something deeper into this? Perhaps she is sick of my crap and doesn't want to encourage me by wishing me a happy birthday? Perhaps I am just annoying to her?

Alternatively, perhaps my extreme insecurity and anxiety mean I am being very silly to even think about this?

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whywhywhy6 · 10/07/2019 22:33

Try not to read too much into it. She probably wasn’t thinking.

But have a fabulous day - happy birthday!CakeSmile

GoosetheCat · 10/07/2019 22:43

I wouldn't think too much into it. I agree with PP who said she probably wasn't thinking. Have a wonderful birthday Flowers

dellacucina · 10/07/2019 22:45

Thanks! She is also changing jobs and pregnant so she has a lot going on. Like I said, I would not be angry, just concerned that I have been too much of a burden or something.

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DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 11/07/2019 00:13

Happy Birthday from me anyway. Flowers
we Cancerians have to stick together. I struggle with birthdays due to relative passing on my birthday. I think if you are feeling unhappy anyway you might be over sensistive but she should have said something. You can either churn away in silence or speak up and say.. Oi.. aren't you going to say HB.. and see what she says.

dellacucina · 11/07/2019 00:25

DuckbilledSplatterPuff so sorry to learn you have experienced that. Happy birthday, fellow Cancerian!

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babbi · 11/07/2019 00:27

Happy birthday 🍰

Kokeshi123 · 11/07/2019 00:30

If she is usually a thoughtful person, she's probably just pregnant and tired and not thinking very hard right now. I would not read too much into it :)

VenusTiger · 11/07/2019 01:01

She might have gone out and bought you a card today.... hang tight.
I love my birthday so know how you feel. Happy birthday to you fellow Cancerian 🦀

EAIOU · 11/07/2019 01:08

Happy birthday 💐

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