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How to get over this embarrassment?

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Fakenametodayhey · 10/07/2019 18:12

My grandfather in law came round on my sons birthday.
The only problem is - its midweek and we took him out in saturday to celebrate.
I wasn't expecting him and was in a bathrobe right about to get into the bath (with all the kids which is a job in itself.)

I usually cowar and hide if anyone knocks but i thought it was dp as he was supposed to be back at that exact time.
So i went to the door pissed off, stomping, annoyed that id had to get the baby and the kids out of the bathroom to open the door for him... why cant he use his key ect.... when it was gfil!

I was only in a short thin bathrobe and i was holding the baby (who was trying to breastfeed while i was holding him- literally pulling my breast out at the front door)

I just had to take the card and present and shut the door in his face! My pants and bra and clothes were on the floor by the door (thanks kids)
And i was so embarrassed.

The thing is- gmil and gfil do this quite often, well not that often as we dont see them that often, but most times the pop round its unannounced.

I have 3 LOs and the house is usually a mess unless im expecting a visitor.
They even popped round whilst i was Konmrie-ing and had dumped the conents of a massive cupboard on the floor and had piles of stuff and bags for charity and dump etx everywhere. I didnt know how to explain the state of the house (also dumped the kitchen cupboards out to sort thRough bowls and cups but it must have looked like a pile of dishes that needed doing (ALL THE DISHES!) )

Dh doesnt have a superclose relationship as we have only just started seeing them a few years ago.
I like them loads they really are great but i dont know how to tell them to call first. Dh doesnt really know them that well anymore (moved away as a child and mum cut the contact so its been about 10 years and we only started contact when we had dd1) so its not like a "his family his problem" because they are both about the same to us- familiarity wise

Just what do i say to let him know i wasnt being a horrible evil old cow? And how do i say 'please call first' in a nice way. It will be me saying it. Dp wont

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snackarella · 10/07/2019 18:23

I'd text and thank them for present and apologise for your scantily clad ways and just say it's a bad time of day, if you call first I'll make sure I've got clothes on! And a laughy emoji!

John470322 · 10/07/2019 21:25

I'd hate to see my daughter-in-law's boobs. There is nothing wrong with them but they are not for me to see.
I'm sure your father-in-law was as embarrassed as you and as snackarella said a text might be the perfect way to avoid him, or you, such future embarrassment.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 10/07/2019 21:29

This is the perfect excuse to ring and say “would you mind ringing in future? you saw the other day I was in the middle of bathing all the DC and had to get them all out to answer the door. Just saves a load of hassle if I know when you’re coming over”

My pants and bra and clothes were on the floor by the door (thanks kids)

The kids put your clothes by the front door?

cranstonmanor · 10/07/2019 21:30

I think thst a text now "you're very welcome to visit, but could you ring in advance so I can get ready" will really hit home. He won't want to see you half naked again either.

NoSauce · 10/07/2019 21:37

Just send a message saying thank you for the card etc and you weren’t being rude but that you weren’t expecting anyone and was just about to get in the bath. Explain that they’re welcome anytime but probably best to send a text to say they’re on their way or something similar.

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