Give me strength

[Okaydoklay]

So, my DS has been on the waiting list for assessment for 2 years.
We have reached the stage where after a million tests etc (You will know if you have been down this route) and analysis. We are still none the wiser. So he is borderlines ASD, not diagnosed as yet, not ruled out as yet. Possible ADHD...pending more investigations..more observations. We have had 3 years of this. (including the 10 years of his meltdowns, anxiety, demands etc)
I have read everything from Dyspraxia, ASD, AHD , PDA, etc etc until my eyes bleed.
My MIL always had a go, at me,him, (you get the picture)
Both In laws not wanting to acknowledge something was wrong.(He's just a boy)
Then today I get a patronising email about article MIL read about ADHD for our information!!!!
AIBU in wanting to scream

Look at it positively - unless the article is saying ADHD is a made up condition to absolve shit parents of any responsibility for their incompetence, sending the article means she's reading up about it and thinking there is more to his behaviour than you/him being crap.

MitziK
Yes indeed, but until now(the penny drops) it's all been about me /him being crap.

Which isn't fair - but if she's FINALLY getting on board, even with a constant stream of 'cures' and related bullshit, it's still going to be better than her not accepting there was anything wrong.

Save your energy for where it's needed, chalk this up as a very late attempt at an olive branch, even if she'll never admit that she has been horrible for all these years, and at least you won't have to deal with 'in my day, a child wouldn't have been allowed to behave like that/You've got to show him who is the parent here' bollocks anymore.

Yanbu even though i don’t have experience going through this.
Turn this around- tell her you’re glad she’s researching it and interested in better understanding the issues. And send links to the multitude resources and research you’ve read...