DH comes from a large family in the North East. They are very friendly and generous - lots of presents at Christmas/birthdays and tea and cake when we visit and generally made to feel very welcome. Obviously it's nice to reciprocate such generousity, but I have found it difficult and them resistant to this which I find really odd (I come from the other side of the country). For example, we once sent champagne for a big wedding anniversary and at first the couple wouldn't accept it until eventually my sil told them they should. More recently, we are providing some nice wine for a milestone birthday and already my MIL has said we are 'interfering with the catering'. AIBU to find this frustrating and feel like trying to do generous things for nice people are being thrown back in our faces? Has anyone else experienced something similar?