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Original poster

To not prioritise cheap on a weekend away

41 replies

luckygreeneyes · 09/07/2019 22:02

So... we’ve agreed to go away for a weekend with DH friends on a couple of months. I was looking at air b&b options but they seemed quite pricey and I know DH friends are quite careful spenders. Not skint just think always have a coupon or a loyalty programme and talk about how much everything costs all the time.

In the end I suggested a cheap but cheerful 3* hotel chain we’d used before at around £70 per couple per night and suggested that.

They’ve found one that looks grim, 2* at £55 a night.

I don’t know how to deal with it without seeming spoilt? I see weekends away/holidays as a treat not necessarily about doing it as cheap as possible. I thought I’d ‘compromised’ enough.

So AIBU? Should I suck it up? Hate being put in this position.

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MyFokMarelize · 09/07/2019 22:05

Do you have to stay in the same hotel? I'd just say they're free to stay wherever they like, but you've found somewhere you find agreeable and that's that. Meet for coffee somewhere in the morning and all is well. I can't see any absolute need to stay in the same building.

PinkFlowerFairy · 09/07/2019 22:05

If its just a weekend away with friends and wed also bduget for a few meals etc od probably go for the cheaper option myself and save the money for bigger things.

I dont think we'll be able to say online. Depends onnpeoples incomea/budgets and ultimately any weekend with friends will be compromises one way or the other - prefer toeat out all meals/dome meals/slef cater etc....

Original poster
luckygreeneyes · 09/07/2019 22:06

I did say that but they responded saying they wanted to be together and ‘selling’ their option to me

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PinkFlowerFairy · 09/07/2019 22:06

Arg. Forgive typos.

Original poster
luckygreeneyes · 09/07/2019 22:06

I just want a comfy bed and a decent showe Grin

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PinkFlowerFairy · 09/07/2019 22:07

Is there a buffet breakfast- could be fun to come to breakfast together and then go out for the day?

Why is it grim (we like a premier inn for basic weekends away without fuss - clean and simple. But not for a weeks holiday where wed want a cottage for example.)

WisestIsShe · 09/07/2019 22:08

I agree with you. If its not at least as nice as being at home, why bother?

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luckygreeneyes · 09/07/2019 22:08

My suggestion was a premier inn- cheap, cheerful and comfy beds

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PooWillyBumBum · 09/07/2019 22:09

I would probably share your sentiments, OP, but it sounds like you’re outnumbered so I’d probably shrug it off and put the difference towards a nicer weekend away with DH another time.

PinkFlowerFairy · 09/07/2019 22:10

Wow the premier was £70!! Was that there can-be-rebooked price as the basic price is usally cheaper. Agree with you their beds are comfy and you know what youre getting. Random unknown is less attractive even if slightly more expensive sometimes (unless reaaaly nice)

BlueSkiesLies · 09/07/2019 22:11

I’d reply in a jokey way saying that I have a holiday rule I don’t stay anywhere not as comfy as my own bed... not keen on the £55 option. Happy to stay separately if they don’t want to stretch to the premier inn.

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luckygreeneyes · 09/07/2019 22:12

@PinkFlowerFairy was the prepaid rate, think it’s school holidays bumping price up a little

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justforthisnow · 09/07/2019 22:14

That sounds grim. 2* and £55? Thst's no treat, considering an extra star is only £15 more. I wouldnt stay in the grim place tbh.

NoHummus · 09/07/2019 22:15

I am on your side, love a Premier Inn! Is their one a chain or an independent place? I wouldn't stay at a hotel I'd never heard of just to save fifteen quid a night. I think I'd respond with something along the lines of: We are going to book a room at the PI as we like it and it is a good price. Shall I book for you too or do you want to sort out your own accommodation at Shithole Manor? Love luckygreeneyes

PinkFlowerFairy · 09/07/2019 22:15

Kinda with you now in that I usually assume premier inn IS the cheap option! We just usually pay a lot less for it.

Good luck.

Loopytiles · 09/07/2019 22:17

Stick to your guns! They can choose between your hotel, or staying in separate hotels.

BackforGood · 09/07/2019 22:18

Neither of you are BU really, just different priorities.
Tbh, I'm with your friends - don't see the point in paying out £140 for something you can get for £110. That's a meal out you've just found.
Why are you presuming that the bed is less comfortable in the one they have found ?

Original poster
luckygreeneyes · 09/07/2019 22:19

Loving you lot tonight! DH is so laidback he’d sleep in a shed just to keep other people happy

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Crunched · 09/07/2019 22:27

I think the solution of a lighthearted text as BlueSkiesLies suggests is perfect.

HelloyouKant · 09/07/2019 22:28

They are being unreasonably tight!

AlwaysSkint · 09/07/2019 22:46

You're better at compromising than I am. A pool is a must for me Grin

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luckygreeneyes · 09/07/2019 22:49

My original pick was twice the price, then I thought about them and was being considerate

I feel like staying in 2* hotels is something I have the choice not to do anymore (luckily)

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Original poster
luckygreeneyes · 09/07/2019 22:49

I mean luckily as in I know I’m fortunate not meant to be flippant

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winepls · 09/07/2019 22:58

I'd be checking the Trip Advisor reviews & hoping they're shit so I can use that as my get out...

Thehop · 09/07/2019 23:01

Life’s too short. If you can afford it just say “hmmm it looks okay, but I really like the deal I’ve found....though well look forward to meeting for breakfast if you decide to go with scabies in “

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