Went to a lawyer a month and a half ago after my ex had become aggressive and emotionally abusive after our break up.
She was great in the initial consultation. I left happy. She was going to draft a letter for contact arrangements.
Emailed after 3 days after the situation was getting worse and asked if we'd be able to get the letter sent out.
Got a draft letter a few days after I'd chased it up, but it hadn't included weekends in the contact arrangements (which I'd mentioned I wanted) and was more harshly worded than we'd agreed.
I sent an email asking for this to be tweaked.
I tried to hang tight after that and received an email 3 weeks later with another draft letter (which still didn't include weekends anyway).
By the time she'd got back in touch, another incident had happened with police involvement.
I sent a couple of emails immediately in a bit of a flustered state not being sure what to send but needing something sent and I went a bit back and forth.
I tried to ring that day after police advised me to and was told she wasn't free until the next week now.
I said fine and hung tight again despite the seriousness of the situation. I didn't want to go ahead and give DS to his dad after police involvement again without legal advice and an arrangement drawn up.
I rang a few days after I'd rang after the incident to be told she was on holiday and back today and a message would be passed on.
I still haven't heard anything today. I sent another email basically saying just sent whichever letter you have because I need something sent because DS is now confused and ex is becoming more irate at the lack of contact.
I'm more frustrated that I needed proper legal advice before making a decision on the next step and now I'm just basically having to say 'fuck it, send whatever' so that something happens!
I didn't want to change lawyer as I took time off work for the initial consultation and it ended up being a long hour of going through everything and dragging up hard things from the relationship etc and it seemed frustrating to have to go through it all again when there's a lawyer there who knows the situation, who has our file, who has a draft letter and just needs to send it!
I appreciate that it's such a busy job but I feel so pushed back that this hasn't been sorted after a month and a half, feel like I'm just being annoying now but feel 110% stressed 24/7 because there needs to be an arrangement in place and I know ex will most likely get the ball rolling first and I'll end up in court or mediation as he's done his part!
AIBU??