AIBU to be upset ?

[thefirehasbegun]

Hello,

I know AIBU but here goes.

Last minute, my nanny sent me a message that she cannot pick up my son because of xyz. I called my ex (DS dad) to see if he was available. Luckily he was.

He picked up DS (9) from school and took him to his after school activity, which I am grateful for, considering it was last minute. However, then ex sent me a message saying that he won't bring back DS till late as he was meeting a friend and decided to take DS with him. I replied to him that DS is going to be really tired and he has to get up at 6.30 tomorrow morning, by the time you come back home, he will be having his dinner really late etc etc.' DS dad said "well I'm already on my way to meet your friend so I'll speak to you soon". He then hanged up.

I'm really pissed off about this. I'm grateful he picked up DS last minute but urrrrrgh I am pissed.

He had plans. He picked your DS up when you needed. I don’t I’d be too annoyed.

It’s a one off, surely? Meh.

Pick your battles.

He picked up DS at last minute. One late night isn’t going to do too much harm.

Let it slide.

Ok, I'll let this go. It's just he did the same thing before. But I'll just leave it alone.

Yes, please do leave it alone. Because if not, he might not be so willing in future.

It's just he did the same thing before.

Last time he stepped in when your nanny let you down?

Can you go collect ds from him?

Why can't he feed him whilst out?

He's the kids dad AnnelovesGilbert it shouldn't be much of a chore

I'm not seeing the issue. He stepped up. If you play hard ball he won't do it in future if he has plans.

Yes text him and ask him to feed dc,eating late won't be good for the child.

fromage where they are is too far for me to collect him.

put DS has severe allergies and not a lot of places do allergy free foods.

Anyway, ex told me that they are on their way back. So they would be back by 9pm.

And OP’s ex didn’t say it was a chore and stepped in to get his son PutyourtoponTrevor

It was OP’s contact time and her ex had plans. His right on a day he wasn’t due to have his child. I’m sure she’s as flexible if he needs a hand during his contact time, always nice when people coparent well, so best not to go off the deep end and damage the flexibility what has worked in OP’s favour tonight...