FUCK. Pregnant 2 months before wedding. How bad is this?

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I get married at the beginning of September and have just had a positive pregnancy test...

I feel bloody stupid saying 'it was an accident', but it was!

How bad is this going to be? I have my dress and everything already

Have you told the groom-to-be? What was his reaction??!!

A mixture of 'oh shit' and smiles haha.

OP how many weeks will you be?

Just turning 12 by the wedding.

Yes I’m not sure @HavelockVetinari is representative!

I was definitely showing at 20+ weeks, very much so, despite being a very slim person. A probably non representative survey of what people looked like in the scan waiting room and going off friends I’d say having a real bump at 20+ weeks is the norm.

One of my friends was 3 months' gone at her wedding - you couldn't tell at all. Even when I found out and went back to check the photos, there was no discernible bump. She was extremely slender too. They had bucks fizz served to everyone and she was secretly drinking plain orange juice!

With my first pregnancy I didn’t show at all (like not at all) until I was about five months pregnant. I’d be more worried about morning —all day- sickness if I were you (but hopefully you’ll be lucky and it won’t be too bad!).

[ flowers] Big congratulations!!

This happened to me. I'd already bought an off the peg dress, slightly small, to slim in to. I ended up buying another one. In the scheme of things it wasn't a big deal. The real issue was the tiredness I experienced on the wedding day, it was more of an ordeal than I would have wished. Good Luck!

Honestly I wouldn't worry about that. I was 3 months at my friends wedding and a bridesmaid so quite a form fitting dress (she was one month, but she didn't know at the time -as was her sister!) I was probably a size 12-14 then and there was no evidence of a bump at all.

I think you'll be fine OP. Like others on this thread I was barely showing by then, just looked like I had eaten a nice big bowl of pasta.
I'd be more pissed off I couldn't drink!

Omg I’m not on it with the formatting today!

I wouldnt worry OP- i didnt show until 6 months...you may just have some amazing cleavage for the dress.

Girl I know got married at 4 months pregnant, didnt know that at the time, wouldnt have guessed.

Bumps start very low way under your waistline so corset will probably be fine. Congratulations!

Your dress should be fine. I was 16 weeks before I had a bump with Dc5 (& even then it was only small, I managed to keep it under wraps until 25 weeks).

yay for you.just done deprive yourself thinking you need to keep weight down.you need to lookafter yourself now cuz your going to be a mum!wahoo

12 weeks is fine; you'll likely only have a little tiny bump if anything at all. I was 15 weeks pregnant when we got married and my waist was still tiny; the minute we stepped off the flight to our honeymoon my stomach popped and I came home with a proper little bump (I maintain that was a cake baby, though).

I did go to slimming world in the 12 weeks before the wedding, though, just to ensure I ate healthily and didn't gain weight as I'd already bought my dress. It really helped me control what I ate.

I didn’t start showing until 24/25 weeks on my first. My bump was tiny.

Congratulations. With my first I started to show at 13 weeks but could have easily kept it secret until 16 or 17- not saying you should have keep it secret but I don't think showing will be too much of a problem. On the plus side any sickness should be over by then.

FWIW I think it's fine to have the occasional glass of wine during pregnancy- my midwife agreed. She said that basically the NHS doesn't trust people to self-moderate and it's a less confusing message just to say "don't drink". It doesn't mean at all that the occasional glass is dangerous- it isn't.

FudgeBrownie, yes I do still want to maintain a healthy eating regime until the wedding! I've lost 2 dress sizes so far and am currently in the best shape I've ever been.

I'm assuming so long as I don't deprive or starve myself (which I wouldn't anyway) then there is no harm in still dieting (healthily) whilst pregnant?

You are unlikely to be showing but I would have a back up dress for the evening if you currently aren't planning on changing. I've found tight things make my sickness worse. Hoping you don't get much sickness but you can't predict it.

I think you'll be fine, almost especially as it's a corset style dress, assuming that you have actual laces up the back? Because then you'll be able to tie it looser.

I got married at 18w pregnant, as did my best friend a few years previously - we both needed panels put in the sides of our dresses as we'd definitely started to "thicken" round the middle (neither of us were large to start with), which was fine and no one would really have known if we hadn't told anyone.

At 12w, you should be absolutely fine in terms of size - but you don't want to pull your laces too tight anyway.

Congratulations - hope it all goes well for you!

I didn't show until about 16 weeks.

Besides, it's a corset dress so you will have a little bit of leeway if your bust gets bigger or you have an extra inch on your waist. Besides, some women actually lose weight in the first trimester so you might find you are fine.

FWIW, I didn't think it was an insensitive thread title - and I've had several miscarriages after buying my dress. I paid a lot for it, love it and I want the opportunity to wear it. If I had the wedding booked and was too pregnant to have worn it I'd have been really disappointed, but that in no way would have meant that I wasn't over the moon being pregnant as well.

I was 10 weeks pregnant at my wedding. Was fine!

I'm assuming so long as I don't deprive or starve myself (which I wouldn't anyway) then there is no harm in still dieting (healthily) whilst pregnant?

not only it's not harmful but it's highly recommended!
The "eating for 2" is an absolute myth, check with your midwife but you barely need 300 calories more in the 2nd trimester, 500 at most in the last.

If you already have your dress, you should try to find a seamstress qualified for wedding dresses and discuss what possible alteration you can do if you need - completely depends on your actual dress.

Congratulations, it's very exciting!

I'm 9 weeks with no. 3 and I'm still in regular clothes. However, I really don't like tight things around my stomach at the moment as it makes me quite nauseous. A corset might be a bit uncomfortable. You should know and hopefully be able to do something about morning sickness by then too.

At least nowadays you don't have to pretend that the baby is 2 months premature but very stocky haha

I didn't really start showing until 5 months with my first, that's when I started to get a bit rounded and clothes a little tighter.