Relationship is over. Where do I start?

[Take33]

After 10 years, children, a home together(in his name) I’m going to view a house to rent on Friday.
I’m dreading it. I’ve not lived in my own for 10 years. I’ve been a SAHM so not really had to worry about Bills, etc. I’m scared I’ve forgotten how to manage money! I’m going to be in benefits too. Love living hand to mouth. Certainly haven’t missed that!
I’m going to have to share my beautiful children. It will kill me not waking up to them every day. I feel so broken, but I won’t show any weakness to ex. He’s in bits

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/law-and-courts/legal-system/finding-free-or-affordable-legal-help/

This should help.

OP, sorry to hear you are in this position. I agree CAB is the place to start.

Unless you are sharing the children 50/50, you will be entitled to claim child maintenance from your ex (assuming he is the father). You do not have to be married. Go to www.gov.uk/child-maintenance

You will also be able to claim their Child Benefit if they live mainly with you.

It's horrible to not have your DCs full time. I never got used to it. I hope this process isn't too painful for you OP, but it sounds like you are making the right decision in the long run.

Where do I stand in moving out of the area? Say, 40 miles away? I’m desperate for a fresh start in the countryside. He’s now saying he’ll take me to court for full custody...

So, he tried crying and now he's doing the old "I'll take the children!"...

Seems unlikely. He's just trying to control you. 40 miles is nothing. Crying and emotional manipulation didn't get the desired result, so now he's weaponising your children.

Something tells me you may find this helpful: www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

Also, 0808 2000 247. A chat with Women's Aid may be in order. They're used to controlling men threatening to take children away when their partner finally tries to leave.

How many of these has he tried so far?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=d5NHBn5p9vY

Thanks shadow. There’s no history of domestic violence, whatsoever