For this to bother me so much?

[SugarHockeyIcedTea]

I was at my ILs yesterday with my kids and I was wearing shorts and T-shirt as it was really warm.

I was in the garden and my DMiL made comment about how pale my legs were. I laughed, I have Highland blood in me and I like my pale skin (it's taken a while)

She then made comment about how it was 'brave' of me to wear shorts above the knee considering how big my legs are. I laughed it off but I'm really hurt and it's been doing a constant run in my head. I'm a size 12-14 and I admit I have a stomach but I've had two kids and I actually like how I look normally ( this,again, has taken a long time).

I'm annoyed that I'm still worrying about it, annoyed that I'm letting it annoy me and I just wish I'd said something instead of laughing it off.

Am I being silly?

Next time maybe say "your son likes them"!

Auld besom - just ignore her bad manners. Hopefully her son has not inherited them from her... 🍷🌹

“Sorry MIL, I don’t understand. Can you explain what you mean?”

Don’t laugh it off. Put her on the spot, she deserves it.

Obviously hindsight is a wonderful thing

My DH works away so I've not told him.dh loves me as I am and he's really supportive and calls out MiL when he's there and hears her. She never says anything around FiL either but he and I are close so think he'd say something to her too.

I don't think she has Dementia,she's always been very blunt for the whole time I've known her.

I was bullied horribly when I was younger for the way I looked and spoke and it's taken me so long to like myself, I just feel really frustrated by it all

If she doesn’t have a particularly amazing body herself then my most charitable reason is that she was trying to do a really awkward woman to woman solidarity thing, like she’d never dare to wear short shorts so was in a weird backwards way trying to compliment you on your confidence in doing so.

If she was slim then I wouldn’t have thought that but by ‘normal size’ I’m guessing you mean average/a bit thicker?

@ChilliAndRiceIsVeryNice yeah I'd say she's average, probably around my size or a touch bigger. She's always dieting and I've just decided to stop with all that, as I've decided that life's too short to constantly obsess over food

Wow! What a complete bitch she is! She knows you’re vulnerable to bullies (bullies can spot it for themselves) and she bullies you when nobody is around

Tell your dp, it’ll be the reason why you won’t go there again.

Wear whatever you like. As I understand women like her say things like that to make you doubt yourself- usually out of jealousy.

Your MIL is aware of your ease with yourself and your confidence so she's trying to get you back in the box SHE'S comfortable with you being in. Been there myself. The door is locked on that old box!

She's a mean spirited old biddy!