to expect not to be 'accidently' copied into emails that will pee me off?

[Rachmumoftwo]

The scenario- 3 families who have met through children. Every couple of months one of us hosts a dinner, where the adults eat drink and be merry while the kids eat, watch dvds and play happily. Friends DH doesn't like kids much (why have them?) and has just sent an email to other friends stating his desire to have an adult only evening, as kids are all older now and should be left at home- 'accidently' copies me in on it. The tone of the email is heavily sarky, as are most of his emails. Kids are all under 6, and he knows too well we have no babysitter, which is how these evenings started, and if it wasn't for the kids, none of would have met. So now I'm not looking forward to it. I don't expect replies, I am just ranting now to get it out of my system in the hope I can keep my mouth shut later after a few glasses of vino!

Amazing how some people use email to say things they wouldn't say on the phone, to your face or in a proper letter isn't it. As if emails somehow shouldn't be taken as seriously as other forms of communication. Bizarre.

These types of people bloody annoy me.

Have the guts to say I'm arranging a night out for adults only if you can come then come if not then I will see you at the next adults and kids night.

It's no big deal really I want to get away from kids sometimes (ok most of the time) but I would never be so backwards about it.

Poor man has no spine we should pity him really.

You lot are great! It's not even him hosting this evening, it's another family. I rang her and offered to get together another time if they all wanted an adults only night, to which I was told not to be silly. We will have an adults night later in the month, but we like to go out for these, he never wants to come clubbing, and I think he may frown upon my dancing on the tables whilst knocking back tequila! That'll teach him to make me leave my kids at home! I behave when they are around. Sort of.

Whoops I drank too much wine and told him off! Could have predicted that really.

Some people like to go out with their kids and some people don't and really you have to respect whatever choice parents make. It annoys me that just because a particular person has a view on this that they force this view on everyone else.

I have no babysitter or family nearby and when LO was young, we went to a wedding and took LO to the church and evening do as well (bride and groom were totally happy with this otherwise would not have done it). I overheard some 'friends' of ours discussing what bad parents we were for bringing LO late in the evening (was fine and having good time, DH was tired before LO!).

Are you sure it was an accident to copy you into the email??

rachmumoftwo - i dont think you should take offence at his email at all

look at it this way - he is saying that he enjoys of the company of you and your mates and wants to have a really good night together with no one having to go off and look after the children at all - that is a compliment

and im sorry, but as lovely as kids are - i always enjoy the nights just with friends far more - you can relax more and have unbroken conversation. Good to have variety - some get togethers with the kids and some just adults

also im not sure if anyone really believes anyone cant get babysitters - i have lots of friends with no parents near by and they have found trusted neighbours or people from a creche or nursery that they can get now and then. They just put lots of effort in to it.