To feel a bit paranoid?

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We moved to a new area a few months ago. Children started new school. Everyone very friendly, I was added to relevant years what's app group, had a few play dates etc.

My daughters year P5 group was organising a collection for teacher gift, which was fine & we contributed. My sons year P2 hadn't mentioned a gift so I messaged the group asking if anyone wanted to join in on a collection for teacher gift. Only 2 mums replied saying thanks but no they had something already. Fine. 3 days later another mum posted to the group about a collection & lots of people replied agreeing to join in collection.

Now I'm not one for being BFF with the school mums or to make a fuss about teacher gifts but I'm feeling its a bit weird. I can see they all saw my message. I'm maybe over sensitive just now with the move but honestly a bit paranoid

Thoughts please?

I'm a bit blindsided by the gift. Sorry, I think it's a bit ott to do a whole class teacher gift, perhaps a lot of mums thought the same, but it's now snowballed.

Is it a big group? If there is a lot of chat maybe people missed your comment.

Did the 2 that answered you make an arrangement with the other mum that asked? If not, then I wouldn't worry.

If they did answer the 2nd mum then it could be that they didn't want a newbie reminding them of something they do every year and were put out by it? People can be petty that way.

Either way I'd ignore it.

Thanks, yeah just ignoring it

It's hard when your new to an area & don't know anyone to think rationally sometimes!

The 2 mums who said no to me also said no to the other mums gift contribution message

Was the 3 days difference over a weekend? Possible the mums who didn't reply to you had planned to get something, but never got round to it. New joint present message came up and they all thought sod it, joint present is easier after all.