To not want a 50th Birthday Party?

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I've bought the invitations, written a guest list but..........I'm just not feeling it. There would be roughly 80 guests, at our house and it seems too overwhelming and like too much hassle right now.

The party was going to be at the end of August, my actual birthday is mid-August.

I went away for a night with some friends last week, DH is taking me away for a few days and there'll probably be a family dinner out.

I feel like this is enough for me.

I was thinking about it today and when I thought that I didn't have to have a big do at all I felt a real sense of relief.

Any party is not compulsory

Plan something that you will enjoy, alone or with some other people

However, don't do nothing !

Happy birthday

You need to tell your friends though. Just say cancelled. Friends should understand.

My 50th is a couple of years off but reading this made me realize I haven't had a birthday party since I turned 21.
I love parties but would rather a trip or day out.

40, 50 60, 70, birthdays, 50th wedding anniversary, they were just days, can't be bothered with anything that would put me at the centre of attention. No law says you have to mark an event just because it's a multiple of 10!

I'm 50 at Christmas. Reading these replies of do whatever you want to do, with total envy.

Its my 60th next year and no way do I want a party ( really not my thing ) My DH who loves parties keeps on that he is going to throw me one ...woyld be very unhappy if he did

Sounds like way too much hassle, and once your actual birthday passes your motivation would be completely gone anway so bail now and enjoy your day.

You do what's right for you. Me and my husband's birthdays are very close so we joint celebrated with family and on our own at home. He was too busy with work so v tired and I'm just unbelievably lazy so couldn't be bothered with party planning

Sod that. I will be 50 in March and DH and I are going to the Maldives. Why pay out all that money for other folk when it's YOUR birthday?

I feel the same about expensive weddings, I would much rather spend it on the honeymoon.

Feeling more and more empowered to say No to a party!

Been doing a bit of thinking..........on my actual birthday, breakfast in bed (obviously!) lazy day and then me and close family will go out for a meal in the evening. Sorted

Talking to DH about this last night, he offered to plan and organise the whole thing. Answer was still a polite No.

Sounds like DH wants this party more than you do.

I bet he organises a surprise party so brace yourself for that.

That said if he is organising it all, I bet you will have a brilliant time of it.

I tend to panic, get anxiety at the prospect of a party for me and then always end up having the best of times.

I know what you mean tantric but my mind is made up!

Just texted a couple of friends who I'd already told, so it's final!

He'd better not organise a surprise party

Don't think he will.

I've never had a party for any of my 'big' birthdays. My birthday is at the end of August, and we are usually on our summer hols in Greece. We went there as usual for my 50th, and it was lovely. Lazed by the pool all day, and went out for drinks/dinner at our favourite places in resort in the evening. Had lunch with the family when we got back from holiday.

DH was 65 last year, and he didn't have a party for that either - he said he wasn't retiring and he didn't want to make a fuss - so I bought him tickets for a show he wanted to see and we made a weekend of it in London - stayed up for 2 nights, saw the show on the Friday and then pushed the boat out with drinks/dinner on the Saturday night at smarter venues than we normally would go. We had a whale of a time.

I didn't want a party for my 50th either. DH had one last year which was a huge success so there were a lot of people calling for me to have one. I was adamant from the off that I didn't want one. And I told DH to make sure nobody organised a surprise one either.

He respected my wishes and made sure there were no surprises.

I'm having a series of celebrations throughout the year. I've had a couple of weekends away with friends, one with the family, a boozy night out with old mates and a lovely tea party with my dad. Also got a trip to the theatre planned and another one to a spa. It has all been brilliant.

I love organising parties, but my goodness they can be really hard work. We recently had one for a close family member - arranged everything (even a marquee), food, drink, things for children to do …. Everyone said it was wonderful, but it was exhausting, and very (for us) expensive. In contrast I had a significant birthday a couple of years ago and we had a family meal. I preferred the family meal!

Am watching this with interest as my 50th in October. Definitely don't want a party in the local pub where you hire a room etc. Considering having one at home but got concerns. My friends don't all know each other (various different groups) so don't know if it would work. Am thinking about it....

DH and i went away for a few days on my 50th, on his the two of us went out for dinner. Less stressfull than organising a party though i will of course organise our DD's 18th!

DH has just asked if I actually do want him to plan a surprise party for me!

I reassured him that I most certainly do not!