To be fed up of his selfish ways.

[Northernsoulgirl45]

So we have 3 dds. Life is busy with all the activities etc. Dh is recovering from op so off sick. I am doing everything to keep things going.
Dh is in alot of pain and is fed up so I do really feel for him. I am doing all I can to help and show lots of concern and sympathy along with practical help as it should be.
However it really feels like a one way street. The other day I stubbed my toes on a toy dd3 left lying around whilst bringing him a drink and he didn't ask if I was ok.
He is having problems sleeping and frequently wakes me up early with an ffing and blinding session as he couldn't sleep.
Yey when the dds were little his sleep was sacred as i was a sahp and he had a commute.
So dd1 is taking part in an school fefe/festival next weekend performing a dance routine. This is a big thing for her. Dh has said that he wants to be home by x time for the Grand Prix so he hopes her performance is before than.
Aibu to be fed up about this. Why do some people only seem to want to do stuff with their kids on their terms?
Dd will be gutted if we aren't there and of it is me who will have to drive him home so potentially we could both miss it.
I will ask him to record it if this is the case but I just don't get why you would prioritise this.
Aibu

He is very self centred and selfish, I’d murder my oh if they woke me and weren’t a husky dying! if this is not normal then put it down to being a bad patient maybe post op pain blues... if this is typical then have a stern word

Tbh I could almost deal with the the sleep tantrum due to the ill health situation but I felt for dd today.

You'd drive him home so he could watch the GP and miss your daughter's performance? He'd be staying (and behaving) or taking a taxi by himself if I had anything to do with it. I am shocked he's like that. You don't have to drive him anywhere - I'd want to support my DD.

He probably would want me to but in that situation I would of course say he has to wait and record GP or get a taxi. I wouldn't miss it for the world and don't understand why ge wouldn't feel tbe same.
Hopefully timetable if events will be out soon.