Would you back down here?

[username905]

Ex has history for the past few months since break up of being aggressive, throwing his weight around and being nasty.

Last week, he was aggressive towards me in front of DS. I completely drew the line at that and ceased contact.

I've told him I'm not 'keeping' DS from him as he keeps accusing me of, I'm just making some boundaries because of his ongoing behaviour and I think it's best we do it through a lawyer with less communication between us and set arrangements.

I'd have probably allowed him to have seen DS in the meantime if he'd understood and acceptable the extent of the situation (police were involved) and how unacceptable it was in DS's life but he's adamant that he was right to act the way he did and it was my fault.

He's now consistently messaging about having DS this week and saying I'm unreasonable.

WWYD?

Ime say what you mean and mean what you say. See a solicitor and get a proper schedule sorted. Your ex has no right to continue to bully you.

Ignore. Or send one message saying that he needs to go through court and get a contact order in place.

Ignore him and continue to seek legal advice on the next steps. He sounds like a dickhead.

Hell no. You're doing the right thing.

I think I'm just starting to feel guilty that DS hasn't seen his dad in 10 days and keeps mentioning him. Best in the long run if it means he stops behaving like that, but hard now!

How old is ds?

He’s in denial that his behaviour is serious. You’re absolutely right to do it through lawyer etc. Don’t let him bully you. You can’t allow your son to think that kind of behaviour is normal either!

Sorry you have a shitty ex.