To think that this is no excuse for being so rude and critical

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I had a beautiful baby girl a month ago.
Before dd was born I had a an ok relationship with my sil. We weren't super close and she could be a little abrupt sometimes but we saw each other pretty regularly and we'd never argued or fallen out.

Since dd was born she's been incredibly rude.
The first things she said on seeing dd, who is a bit chubby of a chubby baby, was 'god, she obese, isn't she'

She hasn't been quite as rude as that since but she has continued to criticise everything I do with dd.
If she sees her in anything other than a sleepsuit she makes fun of me for 'trussing her up'.
If I buy anything that isn't a bare essential or the cheapest version available I'm wasting money.
I'm too clingy because I like to hold her but when I left her napping at my mum's for half an hour instead of waking her to take her to the shop with me sil went on about how she could never have left any of hers with anyone else at that age.

We're a very close family and everyone tends to congregate at my mum's house but it's got to the point where I feel like I can't go to my own mum's house because she always there.

I spoke to my brother about it tonight and asked him if he could talk to her about it and he told me that she was just a bit jealous because she's desperate for a girl (they have 3 boys) and she get over before long.

Aibu to think that isn't a good reason to be behaving so horribly and that my brother shouldn't be so blasé about it?

Sorry about all the typos

What did you say when she said your baby was obese? What a thing to say. She is jealous.

Yep the green eyed monster is alive and living in your sil.

Now you know the reason. That still doesnt give her any right to be rude. Why not confront her directly when she says anything. Call her out on it and put her on the spot and she will soon stop.

She's jealous and your brother needs to tell her to cut it out.

Just reply "Did you mean to be so rude?"

Depending on mu mood, I'm possibly a little more confrontational than you might me - have you tried ""The trouble with you Sue, is that you lack the depth and warmth to be a cunt" preferably right across the Sunday dinner table.

As soon as I read this I thought she’s jealous.

I'd reply with 'Your jealousy isn't very subtle'.

She's being very rude, tell her so. Then she can bugger off and have her tanty.

If Brother kicks off, tell him that while his preference might be that you just suck it up buttercup, you're not going to take her rudeness without comment any longer, so he might want to tell her to pull her head in or get therapy, but no, you're not going to take her rudeness on the chin any longer.

Next time she says anything smile sweetly and ask her if she's aware that she sounds so jealous and tell her she should maybe work on her self-esteem.

I love that @MyOpinionIsValid but I don't think I'm quite brave enough to actually say it. Think I'm going to have to get braver though.

I normally try and just brush it off and change the subject. Think my reply to the obese comment was something along the lines of 'well I think that's a bit over the top'

Some of my family have told her off for it on a couple of occasions but it's just stopped her doing it in earshot of those particular people.

Yes, sadly it seems like jealousy and unfortunately it appears she doesn't have any filter. Easier said than done but don't let it ruin your precious time with your baby girl. Concentrate on putting all your time and love into her and just try to be pleasant but not overly nice to your sil. You won't get these early days back and it would be so sad when you look back and only think of these first few months when your sil criticised you. Enjoy your new baby girl 👶.