Your ankles look swollen, you need to go to the doctor, you might need diuretics, have you got high blood pressure?

[Diemme]

Is practically word for word what my mother blurted out at me at a family lunch today. I just gave her a look, said they're fine and change the subject. No point in creating an atmosphere. In my world that's incredibly rude. In her's it's completely normal conversation. So I managed to hold it in but aibu to think unsolicited personal health advice in public is bloody rude?

rude, yes.
is she really worried/observant or is she trying to find something to make you feel belittled?

She’s your mum! It’s her job to embarrass you and point out every defect! My mother used to say ‘well if I don’t tell you who will’?

I don't particularly think it's either of those orange. She's just got no filter. She sees something she comments on it. It really is normal conversation as far as she's concerned. The proof of that is she'll have moved on now. There's no way she'd think of following it up and raising it next time she sees me.

Better in private rather than over food but they are reasonable things to raise and its nice she is concerned about you. Much better than many peoples mothers/MIL on here that are really mean..

Sorry, I'm not being an arsehole, but your offence is beside the point until you are sure you're ok?

Is the swelling usual for you in this weather or is it new?
Is the swelling going in if you push it? They are symptoms that can symbolise serious conditions.

I do understand the being embarrassed, I'm a bit swollen myself to be honest, but it's normal for me If I'm not paying attention to hydration and my salt intake in this weather and oddly not wearing shoes that are cushioned enough.

Hope your swelling goes down x

Yep, unsolicited advice in general is rude. And (especially when it’s to do with health) people often have zero idea what they are talking about and give dangerous advice. See also: every single thread in the health topic.

Well... she didn't shout you were a waste of space. She cares about your health.

Yeah her timing sucks & her filter is poor, but if that's all she does that annoys you, can probably manage it with good humour.

My mum tells me I look fat, in front of other people. Then she tries to get the other people to agree with her. I don't know why she does it. I think sometimes mums just cross boundaries without thinking it through?

But yes it is very rude.

She's just got no filter. She sees something she comments on it.

This was my first thought. She’s a see it say it type.

They are manageable if they don’t read the daily fail.