I’d be stupid to take him back?

[ScruffyPup]

I need cold hard truths about this so please be as brutal as you want.

Split up with ex of 6 months a few weeks ago, he’s text asking if we can give things another go, I’m feeling tempted because he was the first person in a long time I’ve actually felt something for and I always hoped it would work with us. I’m finding myself making excuses for his behaviour when we were together and thinking I was just expecting too much. AIBU to put up some examples so I can see what others think?

We’d arranged to meet up, he was going out with friends the night before so I’d said just text when you wake up and let me know what time you want to meet up. I didn’t hear anything from him until I text him in the afternoon - when we were out he mentioned he’d been awake since about 9am so it felt like he wasn’t bothered about seeing me.

Many times he’d said he’d text me later in the day and didn’t. Often wouldn’t text me in a day unless I’d text him first.

It was my birthday after we’d been together 3 months and I didn’t even get a card off him.

I’m not being needy expecting more than this am I? I keep doubting myself because I know I have a tendency to be sometimes. Really need other people to tell me I’m being stupid and stop me thinking about this

Block, delete, move on. Happier times await you.

If you're unhappy, and have to try to make things work after only six months you're right to run for the hills. This should be the giddy, loved up, rose tinted glasses bit. Long term relationships need work because life throws crap at you and you work out how to navigate it between you. This is not that.

You’re doing the right thing OP.

I had a relationship in my early twenties with a guy like this. Unfortunately, I didn’t consult the mumsnet collective oracle and went back and forth with the relationship for years. Only years after we broke up did he explain to me that actually he did care about me, as much as he was physically capable of, but that he just didn’t have the capacity to love more, or do more. This was many years ago and he’s never made a relationship work or been able to commit to anyone. He’s pushing 50 now and only ever dates, a few weeks or months at a time apparently. Or so his sibling told me. Some people just don’t have what you need. We all would do well to understand that, sooner rather than later in life. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re horrible or bad, but they just don’t match up with our requirements for a meaningful relationship. For whatever reason, some people are shit at making other people happy and making them feel secure and healthy. It’s not our job to fix those people, which is impossible anyway, to the detriment of our own wellbeing.

Good job op. Now block and delete all.
And celebrate putting yourself first