Freaking out over tinder date...

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I've got a date with someone from tinder. Never done online dating before. He seems really nice and he's so gorgeous.

My worries:

• I'll disappoint him. I look slimmer in photos even though they were only taken in the last month
• he will freak out when I tell him my son is only 8 months old. He knows I have a son but not his age.
• my nerves will get in the way
• he will find me hideously unattractive
• he will find me hideously boring

I'm not here for people to tell me to focus on my son and not to date. I have a huge amount of family support and even my mum is telling me to go on the date and have fun. I just need advice on how to feel more confident and not freak out like I am currently.

Last time I went on a date was pretty kids and I didn't have lopsided boobs and stretch marks from head to toe...

Whoa whoa whoa. Slow down and calm down. This isn't a job interview where you're being tested. This is a mutual date! Turn it round. You're going to see if YOU like HIM, not to try to please him. You're just meeting a new friend at this stage. Drop the pressure and try to just enjoy it.

Yes I agree with legalseagull you are there to see if you like him. Plus if he has issue with you having an 8 month old son etc then he isn't the guy for you so no loss there. Enjoy the date, just think of it as an opportunity to get out for the evening and enjoy yourself

Agree you are taking this way too seriously. You may not even like him

Your just two adults meeting for a drink or whatever your doing, what’s the worst that can happen?

I doubt you’ve gained that much weight in a month!

If he thought you were hideously unattractive, you wouldn’t be going on a date. You have pictures on tinder, his seen them and didn’t swipe left.

You can’t be boring as presumably you’ve been talking a bit to get to this stage? He still wants to meet you

I always get nervous before meeting anyone new, I’m married so not talking dates but even meeting new people about my business get me nervous. I normally find after 10 minutes once I’ve realised nothing bad has happened I start to calm, hopefully it will be the same for you.

Ok so your ds is 8 months. I think if your relationship was over during the pregnancy it’s less of an issue, if you’ve been single 2 months people you meet might be a bit so depends on the circumstances really.

Wear clothes your comfortable in
Fake confidence for the first 10 minutes and then your start to calm and your be fine

Come back and tell us how you got on

Once you get there and see he's actually a 5ft troll your worries about yourself will all melt away.

So what if he doesn't like you? Or is disappointed. You may not like him.

Just go and enjoy it. X

@P1nkHeartLovesCake I've been single for 10 months.

Ok. Yes I need to breathe. I have social anxiety. Dating is terrifying 😥

Who cares? If it doesn’t work you never have to see him again!

Tinder is a numbers game. It took me two years intensive online dating to find the one. Accept most wont work out for various reasons, don’t get down about it just keep looking and try and enjoy it. Definitely don’t worry about disappointing them. Most men on tinder are just ecstatic to get a reply 😂

Good thing about tinder is the next candidate is but a swipe away