Is she right or am I weird for feeling like this?

[MyFriendSaid]

That I will always love him as the father of my children?

I split with my ex 1 year ago, we were married for 10 years and have 3 dcs together. We split because he was just very lazy and too laid back for my liking, never did anything he said he would do, did things on his terms, promised to make more of an effort every time but didn’t and there were other things but I couldn’t deal with it anymore, I gave him chance after chance and in the end I just had to accept that you can’t change people, they are who they are.

My friend and I were speaking about relationships the other day, and I told her even though I’m not with him I still love him as the father of my children and because he was a huge part of my life. I’ve known him since I was 18, got married at 20 and I’m 31 now. She says if that was the case, I would still be with him.

Anyone else who feels the same as me?

Hi
I can't relate but my mum was married and had a son then divorced him married my dad and had me. Her first husband was terrible but even she said she will always have a place in her heart for him as he gave her my brother so I think it's natural

I love a lot of people that I'm not involved in a relationship with. Loving people and living with them are not the same thing.

My DP isn't with his DDs Mum but he's frank about the fact that he loves her - he's not IN love with her. They had many good years together and they have a child. I would say it's more of a fondness, IYSWIM, and he does think about her well-being because of that.

I don't have that feeling for my ex, but equally I don't think anyone can tell you how to feel if that makes sense.

My ex was a bit of an angry dick at times and I'm still dealing with how he made me feel two years later. That said, I work in the same office as him occasionally, we coparent brilliantly and chat like friends when we see each other. I can't be bothered to hold a grudge, I just didn't love him. People think it's weird how well we get on. I think it's not anyone else's business.

I always say that whilst Ds dad and I are not still together, we are still family. I love him in the way that I would never want anything bad to happen to him and I want him to be happy in life, because those things impact on DS too. That said he can be a monumental dick head and so it’s not always easy to actively ‘love’ him!

No, not at all. She's wrong. It depends on why you split up. I love my 2 kids but had no respect or love for their selfish, uncaring fathers. I should have been more careful about who I chose to be my babies' dad's.