AIBU for not wanting to go?

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I’m part of a friendship group of four friends - we’ve all known each other for about ten years and have been through a lot. Friend A has been planning a small gathering (drinks and catch up) at hers for a few weeks and we’ve all been looking forward to it.
Friend B now can’t make it, which leaves me and Friend C going. However, Friend C is bringing her one-year-old. Friend A has now invited her sister (we’ve all met a few times - she’s nice) and her baby of the same age.
The dilemma - within a couple of months, I had to deal with the neo-natal death of my daughter and the birth of Friend C’s baby. I then had to have a TFMR in November and infertility struggles are a big part of my life. Neither Friend A or B have children. Occasionally, Friend C brings her child to non-boozy events and all is fine.
AIBU for not wanting to go to this gathering now it will heavily revolve around babies (obviously the mothers will be sober looking after their children) instead of the tipsy catch up that was planned? I’m not suggesting they shouldn’t enjoy their day; my mental health is fragile at the moment and I won’t enjoy it as the mothers will be talking babies. They can just have it without me.
Can I ditch it with an excuse of illness, etc?

Yanbu to back out.
Sorry for your losses...

Yanbu at all for wanting to ditch it.
Catch up with friends is very different to catch up with friends and kids.
I wouldn’t go and not give it a second thought

Since you are obviously close friends could you possibly be honest with them? That way they could be a bit more sensitive when it comes to future gatherings.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

YANBU at all x

If it's better for you to skip it then that's what you should do.

Look, I didn't have fertility issues and my kids are secondary school age, but I'd ditch this gathering just because I wouldn't want to go to what was billed as a boozy lunch/catch up which has now turned into a Cbeebies/Peppa Pig rally, so please, please do not feel bad about making up some excuse not to go. Just cancel out, tell them you've got a dicky tummy, and treat yourself to a nice takeaway and some wine and something nice to watch or read. No, YANBU.

Yanbu xx

Yanbu. You have to do what is right for you.

Sorry for your loss

As one of you can’t make it and you’ll think you’ll feel uncomfortable then give it a miss. But you know mums can talk about things other than babies. My children were not the totality of my life and I loved meeting up with people who didn’t have kids so I could talk about anything other than kids! They’re babies, not three year old toddlers that need constant supervision.

Don't go. Be honest with friend A if you can. A good friend will support you.

I would just be honest.

YANBU