Is it unreasonable/ unrealistic to expect a house proud significant other to not get stressed when they come home to find the humble abode less than perfect?
It is the biggest source of contention between me and my fiancé. I play with LO, cook the meals, work part time. My fiancé works full time and is particularly house proud. Once in a while, the house (flat even) goes to shit. It’s not dirty, just messy but it’s always, always tidy before bed. My OH gets super stressed, either forcefully and whilst muttering under his breath cleans up around me, or does nothing because he is not able to cope with the stress. I never intentionally leave mess, sometimes the day just flies by and when fiancé gets home it’s less than happy homes. I honestly believe that as long as the house is tidied before bed, little man (ds) is happy and healthy, the living room has been put back then it’s ok. On the other hand, dear partner cannot relax. I appreciate he’s house proud and I really do try, some days more successfully than others. It hurts me that it stresses him so much, it’s really never my intention. My mum and dad has this argument repeatedly and it later resulted in them splitting up. I don’t want that, but I do feel that our expectations are misaligned. I welcome your thoughts and any suggestions how to not make this the end of us!