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DP asking me to commit benefit fraud

109 replies

idontwanttodoit · 05/07/2019 18:48

DP is asking me to claim for benefits under the guise of a single person. Of course I am not as we have been living together and have one DC.

I don't want to do this for obvious reasons but he won't stop pestering me to do it

OP posts:
Spiceupyourlife · 06/07/2019 08:45

I don’t think you should do it OP
But you ‘D’ P isn’t wrong that it happens pretty frequently. An ex friend of mine did it for years, claimed all the benefits of a single mum whilst also having her Fiancés FT wage to rely on.

Same girl had a mulberry hand bag (a wardrobe full of clothes she never wore, a convertible and £50k of credit card debt. 😡

I would have reported her but they lived with her parents (who obviously would back up any story she sold) so it would never have got anywhere

ILikePaperHats · 06/07/2019 08:47

I'm self employed so cash flow is difficult hence low-ish income meaning I can claim benefits. However I manage adequately on what I have, and prefer for the sake of the kids, as well as myself, not to have another man living here permanently. My boyfriend and I do not always see eye to eye so it's better that way.

IceTippedMountains · 06/07/2019 08:51

My ex broached with 'option' when we were in debt.

He actually thought it all out, get his post delivered, change electoral roll etc to his brother's. The dick actually thought I would risk my life for the sake of a few extra quid.

Admittedly this was about 20yrs ago so it could have been easier (less technology to collaborate data etc) but no way in hell.

ILikePaperHats · 06/07/2019 08:51

@Spiceupyourprofile But I do not rely on my boyfriend's wage at all! He does take me out for dinner sometimes and is generous with birthdays and Christmas. But I pay all my own bills, food and mortgage as well as stuff for the kids.

Teacakeandalatte · 06/07/2019 08:57

Paperhats I think you should be careful just because of the fact that a malicious report and an over zealous inspector could cause you trouble. I would get your dp to stay less often and be sure not to get him to buy any household things or food. I know this is probably unnecessary but I think it's better to be on the safe side.

user87382294757 · 06/07/2019 09:04

As other PP said, get rid of him and claim it yourself as a single person. It will be UC now not tax credits.

starsparkle08 · 06/07/2019 09:24

Only claim what you are entitled too . Although your partner is pressurising you to do this , it’s your neck on the line.
To me it sounds like this could be coercive control . Is he controlling in other areas also ?

Have a good long think about your relationship . Someone who loved you wouldn’t be encouraging you to do this at all

Frankola · 06/07/2019 10:11

He's listening to bollocks and wanting to do it because it's you who takes the risk here.

Don't do it.

If he wants more money tell him to get a better job ffs.

Chamomileteaplease · 06/07/2019 10:15

How can he have the bare faced cheek to ask you to risk this? Just awful! And he's supposed to love you?????

I would have a good think about his ethics and your relationship if I were you.

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