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Aibu - to think she's out of order?

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kiabella · 05/07/2019 13:14

Potentially outing so I'll keep the details to a minimum. I live on a new build estate, nice area and good schools in the catchment area so lots of young families live here. One family on my street are involved in a MLM scheme. They do fairly well from it by the looks of it as I think they are higher up in the scheme and more about recruiting people. Everyone in this estate always says hello, it's got a nice community feel about it and that's what I like about it. I always say hello to this family, my LG has played with their children in the park, the dad always says hello.
The mum however, won't even look at me. I've had a conversation once with her on FB as she said she recognised me and we worked out the link from there that we had crossed paths years ago. In that conversation she asked if I would like to get involved with the MLM scheme and I politely declined, she was fine with it and said not to worry. I'm not trying to be her friend but I just thought to say hello in passing was just basic manners? Yesterday I was out walking my DS in his pram. She was also out and we crossed paths, there was no way she couldn't have seen me but she got her phone out and started doing a FB story of the view, avoiding all eye contact with me. Today I've been shopping and again bumped into her. AGAIN she's refused to acknowledge me, turned on her heel and walked the other way!!
AIBU to think there's no need for this whatsoever? I find it really odd that she would go out of her way to avoid saying hello? Or is it because I'm not part of the MLM?

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CacenCrunch · 05/07/2019 13:30

Weird and rude. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that anyway

bringthethunder · 05/07/2019 13:42

You're obviously not BU to think it is odd. But I'm not sure what the point is, or what you are hoping to gain/change?
I doubt it has anything to do with the MLM, seems irrelevant to me as it wasn't an uncomfortable exchange you had about it. Perhaps she lacks social skills, perhaps she is incredibly shy face to face or perhaps she just simply has taken a dislike to you Confused

I would just follow her lead and ignore her shrug

kiabella · 05/07/2019 13:43

@cacencrunch I don't even want to be I just think considering we live on same street, youngest children will be in same school year etc it's so rude! I usually let things like this go but I keep thinking about it and questioning if it's something I've done, it's making me feel really crappy though that's probably just me overthinking it all

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MyOpinionIsValid · 05/07/2019 13:44

Or is it because I'm not part of the MLM?

How do we know what her thinking is?

CuriousaboutSamphire · 05/07/2019 13:49

Just say "Morning!" brightly, cheerily, loudly every time you see her!

littlepaddypaws · 05/07/2019 13:53

i'd ignore it, who knows what goes through someones head ?

Paddy1234 · 05/07/2019 14:00

I disagree with it has anything to do with MLM
About five years ago I was approached by another school mum on Facebook asking me to attend something, talk etc for her to meet a bonus
I politely messaged back good luck but I don't have enough hours in the day as it is
She promptly blocked me.
Really strange behaviour.

BumbleBeee69 · 05/07/2019 14:11

what's MLM ? she sounds bonkers OP.

FudgeBrownie2019 · 05/07/2019 14:12

Rude, yes, but probably unrelated to the MLM, she's likely just an arsehole.

CatG85 · 05/07/2019 14:17

@BumbleBeee69 multi level marketing

OP, I think she's either rude or has bad people/social skills.

BumbleBeee69 · 05/07/2019 14:20

thank you CatG85 Grin

CookieCheesecake · 05/07/2019 14:20

Maybe she just doesn’t want to talk to youGrin

I walk past some of my neighbors all the time and don’t say hi.

WhatWouldChristineCagneyDo · 05/07/2019 14:37

Some MLM-ers are programmed trained to believe that anybody who doesn't want to be part of their pyramid scheme business opportunity is a 'hater' and 'wants to see you fail' . It's all very cult-like.

Or she might just be an arsehole.

I'm with CuriousAboutSamphire , I'd kill her with kindness, loud hello's, cheery waves, it's her problem, not yours.

BSintolerant · 05/07/2019 14:49

You lucky devil! There’s a lot to be said for being ignored by an MLM bot - enjoy it while it lasts! 😉

You know it won’t last though, because in the language of MLM bots (known as Botshite) the word “no” doesn’t mean “no”: it means “Not right now.”

Pinkmalinky · 05/07/2019 14:52

If you’re bothered enough then just make a point of almost shouting Morning/Afternoon! at her with a big cheery grin on your face. Otherwise just ignore her in return and forget it. Sounds like a pretty boring friend to have anyway...

Bloodless · 05/07/2019 15:15

Trust me it’s a good thing, you won’t be tortured to buy anything lol

AnnieOH1 · 05/07/2019 15:20

I'm genuinely concerned you're one of my neighbours as this basically describes our next door ones. He's really chatty and okay. She's stand offish and strange. Deeply involved in at least one MLM in particular (I'm sick of taking in parcels...)

itslateandiminmypyjamas · 05/07/2019 15:29

I think you've dodged a bullet op Grin

WaterOffaDucksCrack · 05/07/2019 19:50

Maybe she's just not one for talking? Maybe she's rude? Maybe you're dramatising it a little also, I've never seen someone "turn on their heel". Either way I wouldn't waste time thinking about her.

WeeDangerousSpike · 05/07/2019 19:55

Could she have remembered something from when you 'crossed paths years ago' that's put her off you? Even something about someone else you were friendly with?

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