To accept that everybody is right

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When the world tells you that you are a useless failure it's best to believe them. If parents and teachers tell you this then they know best.

It’s best to do your own thing and become the loan wolf

You've had teachers call you a useless failure?

Yeah

YABVVVU-Honestly, if parents and teachers tell you that you are a useless failure, THEY are the failures. No halfway decent parent OR teacher would either think or express a sentiment like that. Nobody is a useless failure, it's just a question of finding the right path or context for you. You sound really down OP, do you have someone to talk to in RL?

Of course not. You know that or you wouldn't be posting.

And knowing it is half the battle. Do not let other people dictate your feelings. Work out what you want and how to get it. Then do it. Make a plan, a short term one, and a longer one and set about living your life on your terms not on other people's. Take control of your own life, these people are not important to you and their opinions are their own failings not yours.

It might be a tough road and you might have setbacks but you can do what you want.

Never a good idea to let other people define you, it's up to you to decide who, and what, you are. And no, people who call you useless do not know best, no one with good intentions would say something so cruel. I hope you are ok

Time and time again I've learnt the hard way that they are right as I fail at everything

Do you want to tell us what's been happening OP? We'll try to help if we can

I've just failed my degree but the rest are all celebrating today and yesterday. I should have accepted I wasn't capable of it.

I’m so sorry

OP-Trust me, lots of people fail exams/assessments, it doesn't mean that they are failing at life! You may or may not be suited to doing a degree (a lot depends on WHY you failed) but it doesn't define you. You have a lot to give to the world, your worth and potential as a human being do no depend on a piece of paper-anyone who thinks differently is an idiot. Some of the most amazing people I have known haven't had degrees, it isn't the be all and end all.

Fuck no! Are you kidding me? People are wrong ALL the time and their stupd yard sticks of value are so off its crazy! ARe you a good and loving person? Then you are way better than most on this website. Yeah they have kids, but most of them judge you for staying at home to raise them, not my kind of people. So you failed your degree, its sore. Can you resit, or would you even want to? Actualy, here is the real issue, did YOU enjoy your course? Did you feel fulfilled and excited by the study? IS it what you still want?>

I love it but I'm not good enough to do it

Are you excited by it? Do you really enjoy it?

It's a vocational degree and all I've ever wanted

Prove them wrong.

By the way I was told similar. I didn't take it on board and after a long way around I did what I wanted.But I do know its hard when you feel so defeated. its not you that lacks, its them. You can do anything. ANYTHING!

I dicked around all the time when I was young. And messed everything up. But I am really really successful and happy now. It doesn’t matter, you can still pick yourself up and prove them wrong.

Do it! Do it! You so can do it! Set backs are totally normal and usually we have support to help throught that but if you dont it just means your win will be all the sweeter! Please keep going. I really want you to do this for you. You will feel amazing. Do it in spite of everyone, not because of them.

Have you talked to your tutor? Can you re-sit? If you want to pursue this, you need to find out what your options are. Don't let your parents unsupportive approach cloud your thinking. If you love this, you need to find a way forward.

Would you like a support group on here? Might that help? Maybe we could get some direction for you in your field?

You can't succeed in life without failures. Every successful person out there has had a ton of failures, but the difference is that they keep trying.

If the people around you are negative, then you need to change that.

Are there any opportunities to retake your degrees? It sounds like something you really wanted to do.

True that!

You can't feel the joy of being a winner if you haven't had failures. What do you feel went wrong OP?

Hey - that’s ok. I passed exams but spent years doing something I wasn’t good at and became v stressed. Now leaving to change career - so that would be years of study/work ‘down the drain’ (v specific vocational career).

At least you won’t spend longer Doing something that doesn’t really fit. Have a look round at other jobs. There are so many - and ones that you haven’t even thought of!

Jack Ma (who founded alibaba - a huge Chinese eBay) has experienced a lot of failure too.

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.ccamonash.com.au/articles/2018/1/2/jack-ma-a-story-of-success-through-failure%3fformat=amp