Crying

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Bad day today but generally hate this about myself. When I get really upset/angry/emotional I cry. I feel pathetic. I’m so strong normally. Day to day I don’t get stressed, really practical but today in work while trying to explain why I’m not happy about a situation I cried. It instantly makes me look vulnerable/out of control but it really isn’t, it’s not how I actually feel, I can’t control it anymore than I can control sneezing but it weakens me and I hate it. What do I do?

Just accept it. It helps you feel better so is not wrong nor a sign of weakness

There really isn't much you can do apart from walk away from a frustrating situation until you're calm enough to approach it again in a most composed way.

I cry when I'm angry too. It's very annoying especially at a work place when you're trying to come across as professional but sometimes emotions just get the better of us.

Mel Robbins has an audible book about something similar. It might have some good techniques for controlling it.

Hating yourself? Don’t do that.
Crying is just a reaction, you feel like you are vulnerable and you are probably not sure why.
I went to my first Pilates session recently. It was an NHS physio thing. I blubbed my way through the whole thing. Sometimes your body can’t help but deep out those lent up emotions. Doesn’t your body really betray you at times??
Spend th estimated thinking about how you felt, what the real frustration was.. don’t forget.. our bodies make us cry when we are happy too.. those little tears love popping out.
Hugs for your bad day.
I think when people start listening to you and when don’t feel so “in the headlights” your tears will dry up. Xx

I’m the same. The more I try not to, the more it happens. I wish I knew the answer.

I cry only through anger/frustration. It's not a weakness to cry, and people should never view it as that or underestimate the person crying.

My advice would be ,where possible, walk away from the situation, take 5, compose yourself and return to address the issue..
It works for me more often than not

Hope you are okay today? Xx

It’s because you are too emotionally involved in the situation

You need a business head to deal with this type of interaction

The more you cry the more you cry!! You can change it.

I'm the same. I just tend to walk away from the situation and return when I've had some breathing space.
Crying is just a natural response to stressful situations.
I also find I shake uncontrollably when I'm upset or angry about something.

So glad to see your post here today. I honestly hadn't cried in about 2 years and I had to attend a review meeting for some work I had done. I felt very unfairly treated and I cried like a baby, sniveling and snotting through the whole thing. The two people reviewing me were very uncomfortable and then he started crying too, like proper crying. It was fucking bizarre. I really never cry but the way I felt was loaded with hurt and a sense of unfairness and I just had no control over the tears falling. The only thing I can say is that it was honest. I wasnt doing it to manipulate or excuse anything. I was genuinely hurt and I expressed it.

I was googling crying at work all day today to see how common it was and the one thing I did learn is that women always feel way more guilty and ashamed after they cry at work than men do.

It's OK to cry, it's emotions you need to express. Please don't see yourself as weak. My Counsellor actually pointed out I rarely cry even when discussing awful stuff & that it's a) unusual thing and b) not good for you psychologically to bottle it up. I've actually realised now that when I cry, afterwards I feel like a weights lifted.