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Horrible ex texting after I threatened with police

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Whatintheworldisthat · 04/07/2019 21:32

I had a very unfortunate fling with a really disgusting (personality wise) guy earlier this year. I have bpd so extremely impulsive and generally poor decision making

This guy was a lot older than me (40s) and I'm early 20s, had a drinking problem I later found out and no money or stability. I am by all accounts on the surface a high achiever - good job, degree, etc., so typical me picks someone totally in an attempt to self sabotage, for the risk taking side of it

This guy took money off me and promised to repay but never did. It was about 400 pounds in all.

I cut him off after I realised he was a massive loser and had no intentikn of repaying my money. I told him after he bombarded me with texts that I don't want to speak to him and nicely said that if he kept texting me I would call the police for harassment.

So he left me alone. However yesterday he text me asking to catch up and basically a light message like you've left your stuff here and I'm moving flat bla bla bla Angry

I honestly feel dirty just receiving the text. I've blocked his number but he has new numbers all the time Sad I feel sick and sacred and angry.

Do I reply or do I ignore?

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MauisHouseOnMaui · 04/07/2019 21:35

Ignore it as a one off. If he texts you again then reply with the same stock reply as last time - "I do not want any contact with you. Do not attempt to contact me again or I will make a report of harassment" - and then block him. If he contacts you again after that then follow through with reporting him.

MissConductUS · 04/07/2019 21:41

Ignore. He just wants more money.

eyeswideshit · 04/07/2019 21:44

I could've written this post. Bpd can be a bastard sometimes. Don't reply unless you can't replace the things at his flat. You're better off without him and if you speak he will only worm his way back in again.

Cheery145 · 04/07/2019 21:56

I really feel for you, I had a similar awful man popping up every now and then in my life but luckily he hasn’t got himself a new number so remains blocked.

Don’t reply, and change your number. Your friends and contacts can adapt and you’ll get some peace. Good luck xx

Original poster
Whatintheworldisthat · 04/07/2019 22:35

Bpd is awful, yep. I feel like half my life is lived by another risk taking person 😔

I feel like there's a constant stream of destruction behind me

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MrsMoastyToasty · 04/07/2019 22:39

If he makes contact again tell him you're taking him to the small claims court to get your money back. It'll probably be the last you see of him

mummmy2017 · 04/07/2019 22:46

Just think that £400 was well spent in showing you his true colours....write it off as the price to get him out of your life...

Cheery145 · 05/07/2019 02:27

Have you watched Crazy Ex Girlfriend on Netflix? The main character has bpd. Brilliant show xx

hinely · 05/07/2019 03:07

I know it's a pain but maybe it's worth changing your number? If he continues to hassle after that then go back to the police.

LellyMcKelly · 05/07/2019 04:36

Just block him. Write everything off, block him, and move on. Life is way too short for this drama.

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