What would you do?

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Ok ...so last week I was invited to a hen do only to discover I'm not invited to the wedding 🙈 and everyone else that's going to the hen do is. Would you go? I said no because I didn't want to be the odd one out.

That’s so weird! Do you get the feeling you were just a space-filler at the hen?

OR could there be a mistake? (in which case ask)

OR is the wedding super tiny (in which case, I wouldn’t feel at all offended and go, if I liked the bride and/or hens)

I wouldn’t go either. Very odd behaviour from the bride!

If you like the bride and enjoy a night out (assuming it's an evening) then go. If you can't be bothered don't!

The wedding is small. Im not offended i just didnt want to be the only one not going at the hen. Ive said it and now feel super awkward for saying i dont want to be the odd one out.

Yes feel like a space filler. They'd all be talking about the wedding and i'll be there like a pleb. Or i'd just feel second class. Do you know what i mean ?

This happened to me. Only I wasn’t told I wasn’t invited to the wedding until I was actually on the hen so she’d obviously kept it quiet so I’d still go. Asshole.

And yes it was massively embarrassing with everyone discussing their wedding outfits and me sitting there in disbelief that I wasn’t even invited.

Fuck that right off ✋

If it was a local night out (which I'm assuming it isn't) I would possibly still go as it would be my way of celebrating their marriage but I wouldn't do any more than that.

I bet they were planning on you chipping in to cover the bride’s dinner, drinks, etc. Or the one organising the do, might have assumed you were going to the wedding.

The one organising the do knew i wasnt invited. She said the bride was afraid to ask because i wasnt invited to the wedding. Id already said yes. I said no because i felt like the odd one out. I thanked her for the invite. I just feel the hen is linked to the wedding.

Sorry but I wouldn’t go.

Theres never enough information

ie how do you know the bride and other women?
Are you the only one from a tight social group not to be invited or are you really on the peripherals/work colleague/random from down the pub/wife of one of the grooms mates?

The hen do is linked to the wedding in my opinion. Are you even invited to the evening?

I wouldn't go and would be offended to be asked to the hen and not the wedding if everyone else at the hen was going to the wedding.

I wouldn’t go. I wouldn’t invite someone to my hen without them going to the wedding though

I couldn’t be arsed to go to that. 🙂

I had a very small wedding - I think there was a dozen people max!

I didn't have a hen as such, just went out with a few friends, male and female but none of them were going to the wedding. Nobody cared. They knew it was a small wedding though.

Having said that, it's not the same as your situation. None of them were coming to the wedding. There is no way I would have had a hen night and left one of the party out of the actual day. Very strange and very rude. I don't blame you for not going.

Has she said why?? (being nosey really - it's just very bizarre)

No I wouldn't go, mainly cos you're the only one not invited to the wedding. If there were a few in the same position I would accept the fact it's small wedding and be pleased I'd joined a part of it.

It's the odd one out bit i'm miffed about. I dont care its a small wedding. But jts just me left out

@Zebraaa did you post about it on here? I remember reading an awful thread about a woman that happened to.

OP YANBU, don’t go x