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Original poster

When things run out...

38 replies

alphajuliet123 · 03/07/2019 17:54

Scenario. We keep batteries in a box in a cupboard, a DIY cupboard that I rarely use. He used the last two batteries recently. He didn't mention there were none left and didn't remember to replace them. Fast forward to needing some today and of course the box is still empty. Apparently it's my fault because I work from home and should have realised

I said he can knob off because HE KNEW there were none left and I didn't because I'm not a bloody mind reader and haven't got x-ray vision. Am I supposed to do a daily audit of these things, just in case? Or should I expect a grown man to at least mention it so one of us can replace?

He's knobbed off to buy some more, chuntering to himself.

I realise this is trivial but he's a bit of a blamer and just can't see my point, so....who is BU?

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Aquamarine1029 · 03/07/2019 17:56

There is not a single valid reason as to why he can't manage to buy the fucking batteries. You're not the hired help, ffs.

dudsville · 03/07/2019 17:57

Or should never have become an argument. Perhaps he small scale messed up knows it and became unnecessarily defensive. Likewise, it's just batteries, life isn't helped by getting irritated by it.

MrsTommyBanks · 03/07/2019 17:57

We have a rule in my house. If someone uses the last of something they MUST write it on the list. Which is on a magnetic pad on the fridge.
Irrelevant now I live alone, but very effective when my adult DC were living at home.

bristolone · 03/07/2019 18:00

My DH does this about sodding Bovril and his deodorant. I don't use it so I don't know it's finished. Apparently I'm supposed to run around checking everything. FFS
YANBU

ButDoYouAvocado · 03/07/2019 18:07

YANBU

YABU for using the term 'knob off'

golddustwomen · 03/07/2019 18:11

Oh yes I'm another one who should run around the house checking if anything has ran out tooHmm

Also think knob off is hilarious.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 03/07/2019 18:11

Consider using rechargeable batteries - they only take 40 minutes to fully charge, probably as long as it takes to drive to the shops to get some.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 03/07/2019 18:12

Whoever uses the last either replaces or adds it to a shopping list.

GummyGoddess · 03/07/2019 18:21

He's just moody because he knows you're right.

ChihuahuaMummy1 · 03/07/2019 18:22

I second getting rechargeable batteries

Original poster
alphajuliet123 · 03/07/2019 18:24

YABU for using the term 'knob off'

That was the considerably more polite version!

I think what tipped it from mild sniping to proper bickering is the fact our 12 year old son is also a perpetual blamer and my husband HATES it, so once I pointed that out, the battle lines were drawn.

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Original poster
alphajuliet123 · 03/07/2019 18:25

He's just moody because he knows you're right

Marry me?

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that25cUKHeatwaveof2019 · 03/07/2019 18:33

Of course YANBU

I tend to have a spare of all these sort of things, when the 1st pack is finished, we just add that to the shopping list. Your DH needs to grow up - and pop to the nearest supermarket!

Iggly · 03/07/2019 18:35

Yanbu and you know it.

Dh is also a blamer. He comes from a family of blamers, which I didn’t spot until it was too late

It’s basically a form of defence. It’s a bit sad really when he gets into an argument with his child about who was to blame. He’s the adult and should be able to cope.

LostInNorfolk · 03/07/2019 18:37

his deodorant

You buy his deodorant?
Do you also wipe his bottom? Brush his hair?

theorchidwhisperer · 03/07/2019 18:37

I get this with breakfast cereal. I don't eat it, don't like it but I will buy it for the family. They all put empty boxes back in the cupboards then complain when we are out of cereal.

How, how am I meant to know when it's gone? Without going through umpteen boxes daily to keep count.

They are getting better as I can be very vague.......

AriadneesWeb · 03/07/2019 18:37

We have a list on the wall. If it isn’t on the list it doesn’t get bought. If you use something and don’t put it on the list it’s your fault.

Loveislandfan · 03/07/2019 18:39

My OH is sooooo bad for going on the major defence when he’s messed up a little bit. That winds me up so it then ends up a way bigger thing than it was before.

And as for ‘I tend to have a spare’ Confused

Benjispruce · 03/07/2019 18:39

Love 'knob off' Grin

BeyondMyWits · 03/07/2019 18:42

I have cultivated the raised eyebrow for when I think he is being a complete nincompoop ...

works well

Squirrelblanket · 03/07/2019 18:44

We have very similar conversations in my house! You are not being unreasonable.

bristolone · 03/07/2019 18:48

Lostinnorfolk no I don't. If it doesn't go on the list or isn't put on the Tesco shop it doesn't get bought!!

RubberTreePlant · 03/07/2019 19:01

YA so NBU.

I'm thinking of making this a capital offence in my house. The two young adults and DH all do it. Infuriating.

kidsmakesomuchwashing · 03/07/2019 19:05

Yep my DH says "I've run out of my toothpaste and my shower gel". My response "ok"!
He thinks I should know these things!

ThePurpleHeffalump · 03/07/2019 19:09

We do what Ariadne said.
Added bonus is I’m vegetarian, so if we run out if bacon or sausage, I don’t care. Write it on the list or start walking.