Talk me down. Or flame me. I dare ya!

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So. DH and I are moving house, moving abroad in fact. Lots to do. We have 2 dc and alongside working we have to completely empty both living spaces and lives. The cupboards are bare. DC have a strict rotation of 6 outfits. My phone is out of credit and I am not renewing it. So. I ask dh if he can text the cleaner we've booked to come a bit later and he does so by ... Picking up my phone and sending the same message. From the same phone. What? Why? I'm cross.

The mistake that he forgot?

Why do you think he assumed you can't use your own phone?

I assume the big deal is that her DH was man-do-ing - he thinks he can magically squeeze out a text on an empty phone by the power of his thumbs as opposed to the OP's little lady fingers.
All that said, I may myself have refused to take No for an answer myself when phone (the one I have now lost in the declutter, oh the irony) says Text Not Sent by sending it another four times. It will come to no surprise dear Reader that It. Did. Not. Work.
Hope dies last OP.

Well exactly - thanks. sacope

Errrm the actual mistake that he made.

Given the stress of the move and your current mood, it's not a massive leap to assume these things can happen.

Chill out.

Is there something else going on here?

Your reaction is ridiculous.

You seem stressed. Why? But seriously, I get that it’s annoying.

I get you, op. Sometimes I think (some) men either are completely devoid of common sense, or deliberately do this shit so it’s yet another task they can leave to their partner. In the grand scheme of things, it’s minor - but under your stressful circumstances I’d think he was a fucknugget as well (though obviously not forevermore, just in that moment).

Take a breather, sounds like you need it. Hope he’s managed to engage brain and text the cleaner by now!

You’re stressed and under pressure. Moving house is stressful. Moving abroad is even more stressful. Moving abroad with kids is manically stressful. DH has done nothing wrong. You’re just irritable with good reason. Go chill out.

My time, oh my time which I can never get back

Sounds like you are just fucking angry at everyone.

When I asked him to text, I had passed full adult responsibility to him. I asked him to do this. What do you reckon? It feels to me that he batted at my mobile afterwards for ... Your guess is good as mine.

I discovered DP had left his phone at home, so texted him (to the phone he'd left at home), to let him know.

I'm really not stupid, or a wanker - I realised what I'd done a millisecond after I pressed 'send'.

Chill out, take a deep breath. It'll all be fine.

I can only assume that the stress of moving has (understandably) gone to your head because this really is a total non-event and tbh I am struggling to see what you’re even trying to accuse your husband of having done. Maybe time for an evening off packing and a glass of wine!

What if he has no credit either?

He thinks you're digitally challenged? (see above)
digit-ally, geddit?* He thinks your fingers don't work.

*I am Grahamsplaining which is what we call it when Mr Norton feels the need to explain his jokes

I hear ya OP. The heat, the move, the stress, the hapless other half who is patronizing you in your head but if things are bad now, wait til you're abroad...I do hope you're not the trailing spouse. You sound just like me but I've had over a decade to build up the resentment.

Here Cheers
Or - not flaming ya, mildly grilling maybe

@MrsMigginsLovelyBaps Are you me under a name change? I do this stuff all the time. When I can't find my phone, I ring it so I can hear where it is. When I hear it I hang up. When I pick it up and look at it I think oooh, I have a missed call. Every. Single. Time!

OP your life sounds really full on at the moment. Remember to laugh at yourself, and your DH.

Understandably you're very stressed but good god you sound hard to please.

He made a mistake. He's probably stressed too. Why do you assume his actions indicate he thinks you don't know how to use your phone?

Instead of making a joke of it and laughing about his stupid mistake you come on here and moan. Surely your time would be better spent sitting down, taking a deep breath and getting him to pour you both a glass of wine.

I agree you sound hard to please. Id hate to think what your reaction would be if he dared try calling someone off it😵😵

Another one who does the 'Oh I've got a missed call' when I've called my own mobile.

If you act like this over the minor stuff then how would you cope with any major problems?

Op...don't sweat the small stuff!

you come on here and moan

Ach, I'm not flaming her for that. Every bugger comes on here to moan one way or another. The happy miss congeniality posts are rare diamonds.

I do think Mumsnet needs a topic called The Vent [anger] just for letting it all out.

!!!

Those faces were for getting [anger] wrong

I imagine that the massive amount of negative energy pouring off you rubbed off on him.

Chill.

I assume the big deal is that her DH was man-do-ing - he thinks he can magically squeeze out a text on an empty phone by the power of his thumbs as opposed to the OP's little lady fingers.

Or, more likely, he just made a dumb mistake.