DH goes through phases of being distant and unnapproachable. Like, I'll sit next to him of an evening and try and cuddle up to him and he'll act like a bit of wood until I just leave him alone. Or I'll try to talk to him about something trivial or make a joke and he'll just act disinterested in whatever I have to say. It will go on for days, weeks, sometimes a month. In the beginning I'll ask what's wrong with him and he'll insist he's fine, but he's clearly not.
Eventually I'll have had enough and talk to him/get upset and he'll apologise and tell me what was wrong or what he was thinking about the whole time. I'll talk about it with him, he'll promise to be more communicative in the future, everything goes back to normal. We have a really loving relationship when he's not like this. He's really affectionate, considerate and kind.
But he's just done it again and I'm so fucking tired of it. It's been six weeks. Things have been civil but it's been like living with a roommate... completely platonic towards me out of nowhere. Usually at the very least he'd give me a hug while I'm making dinner or a kiss on the cheek here and there, but nothing. I've tried being affectionate, tried initiating sex, I get stonewalled. This time I haven't asked him to tell me what's up, and he's grown more and more distant and cold. At my worst I've start to wonder if there's something wrong with me, if I'm ugly, if I'm annoying to be around.
The thing is that he is autistic. I don't know how much of this behaviour is related or as a direct result of that.
This time though it's because he read something about being happy outside of your relationship and it being healthier not to rely on your partner for your happiness in life - fine. But he's interpreted that literally as 'don't look to your partner for any sort of comfort or affection'.
But tbh I'm sick of it. I can't stand feeling like this.