To not let child see dad until he quits drink for good

[Motherofdragonss]

I’ve had pretty much mixed answers on this but I need to know I’m going to do the best by my son.
Ds3 dad has massive drink problem. As soon as he has money he will go and blow it on alcohol and god knows what ever else.
When he has ran out, that’s when he will contact me regarding my son and want to see him.
He has seen him twice this year. Then after i have to make some excuse to my son why he isn’t going to see his dad till he wants to see him which could be weeks/months.
Aibu to make him chose either drink or my little boy. Or is any contact good contact as long as he gets to see him?

I did this with my dds bio dad 14 years ago it was the best thing I could do for her no child should have to deal with all of the crap that comes with an alcoholic parent.
You do need to except that he will most likely choose alcohol.
Its not an easy choice but its the right one for now atleast

Or is any contact good contact as long as he gets to see him?

No. Of course not.

And being abandoned and rejected by his father repeatedly will be destabilising and damaging long into adulthood.

Thankyou 💕

I would agree with the above. The abandonment issues will stay with him if it becomes the norm

That’s exactly what I have said.
All I have getting is “I can’t play god with a child’s life” and it’s making me feel awful.

You're not awful, he is.
Never feel bad for protecting your child.

All I have getting is “I can’t play god with a child’s life”

What nonsense. When children are young that is exactly what they need their parents to do. As they get older, and develop sufficient maturity to make their own decisions, we can downgrade ourselves to guardian angels but in their early years we have to play god.