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People "Chasing You Up" When You Are Doing Stuff For Free

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IncandescentShadow · 03/07/2019 00:21

Point 1 - I have somehow ended up being the one to get quotations and organising repairs to our access drive, shared with two other properties and instigated by one of the neighbours, who wouldn't let it rest (its not even that bad). I am organising it all mainly because the others are incapable/too damned lazy. Instigating neighbour has taken to emailing me every second day to find out "where I am" and what progress I have made. Now, I don't know if you have ever got quotes from constructions companies, but they are often on jobs and don't do it quick. Nevertheless, I have now obtained 3 quotes and instructed the best value/most competent sounding one with all our agreement. That construction company is currently tied up on an over-running job, and may start sometime towards the end of this week, but most likely not til next week or the week after. It is not possible to get a date out of them, but they are a long established company and I know they will start reasonably soon. This has all been explained to the instigating neighbour, most recently on Friday of last week, yet he still automatically sends me emails every second day, chasing me up. I am repeating the same thing over and over again, as I did when I was organising the quotes. (instigating neighbour's single attempt at getting a quote himself resulted in a 60% higher quote than the one we are going for, a ludicrous over-specification and for some strange reason the contractors visiting him at his house several times to discuss the matter yet not producing a proper written quote). Of course, I also made sure that all three of us set up a joint bank account where we are all joint signatories, (as their idea was to be completely vague about it and perhaps pay varying amounts based on who had the most money and how many people lived in their property). We have all paid our shares into the account of expectation of the work being done and I am getting comments about this in the emails too!

Grr.

Point 2 - at the same time, I have somehow ended up putting in a theatre license application for a company which is renting one of the properties I manage. They had started it themselves, got it all wrong repeatedly and in order to process signing of the lease on behalf of my client, I asked them to send it to me to check over. It ended up being easier to submit it for them, and obviously, local authorities take a certain number of weeks to process it and get responses from all the stakeholders, etc.. Nevertheless, I am getting an email every week asking me if I have finalised their theatre license yet!

Now I am particularly sensitive right now because I am also on holiday abroad. Both parties know that I am on holiday and have emailed me their usual chasing up messages, despite knowing I am on holiday abroad. In fact, both of them started their emails with the words "I hope you are enjoying your holiday"! And to the theatre license one I actually told her not to contact me while I was on holiday!

Is this a thing now? I would tend not to contact them unless I actually have something to tell them, and don't appreciate being so constantly chased up/pestered. I have been fairly clear in sending emails explaining this to them. Am I being U in hoping the pair of them spontaneously combust and go away and leave me alone?

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HennyPennyHorror · 03/07/2019 00:28

Why are you looking at emails whilst on holiday?

The way forward is to tell the irritating serial emailer that you're very busy and won't be opening any emails at all for at least a week. Then don't open his.

HennyPennyHorror · 03/07/2019 00:29

oh and when the work DOES begin, inform the pushy neighbour that he's in charge of "management" of the work as you're too busy.

Patroclus · 03/07/2019 00:41

It sounds like the first guy wants to feel a bit important

BackforGood · 03/07/2019 00:54

Another wondering why you are opening their e-mails whilst on holiday Confused
You told them you were on holiday. Just leave them. YOu are bringing the stress upon yourself.

Although obviously the 'every 2 days' guy is being incredibly unreasonable, and wold have been told that long before I went on holiday.

IncandescentShadow · 03/07/2019 00:59

Oh, if I don't reply to them, they will keep emailing or contact other people to say I'm not replying.

The Neighbour will literally keep emailing ever more pointedly saying the same thing. Has complained previously that I didn't cc in all the others each time I replied to him, which I hadn't done because I'm usually too busy to type out the other email addresses the multitude of times I have to reply! Added to that, the other neighbour will literally not respond to any email that I send, I think she is one of those women who doesn't believe anything unless a man says it.

He cannot be left on his own to manage it, everything he has done so far has been a disaster. He swore at the chosen contractors and told them to "get off his land" when they came to quote because they came up his drive first instead of mine and I had to talk them into continuing. Earlier, he mistook a firm of surveyors for a construction company, made us all get a pointless survey done which basically said they would need to do a more expensive, complicated survey, and we all had to shell out instead of getting actual quotes.

As for Ms. Theatre License, she will contact my clients personally to complain I am not responding if I don't respond within two days. She has actually done this before, when she emailed on a Sunday and didn't have a reply by the Tuesday morning. I have however sent her a shirty reply stating that I don't expect to hear from her again until x date, and that I will charge her for replying to unnecessary emails in future. Hopefully, it will sink in.

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doxxed · 03/07/2019 01:02

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HennyPennyHorror · 03/07/2019 01:03

No matter how many times he emails, just stop responding. So what if he keeps emailing?

Just leave them unread!

HelenUrth · 03/07/2019 01:08

Set up specific auto replies. Most email systems will let you set up filters and rules, you could have one e.g. if an email arrives from idiot a or b, respond with something like "I have no news since the last email I sent you". Or less polite as appropriate.

BobTheFishermansWife · 03/07/2019 01:09

Can you put an out of office auto reply on?
Simply stating, "thank you for your email, I am on holiday until xxx, I will respond to your email upon my return"

Then every single person that emails you will get the same message?

Sunshine93 · 03/07/2019 01:13

Oh, if I don't reply to them, they will keep emailing or contact other people to say I'm not replying.

Just delete his emails. If he contacts other people so what. It's quite clear he is being a dick and you are on holiday. Or as someone else said set up an autoreply which says you are on holiday and won't be responding to emails until X

You sound like you have dealt with theatre woman but if she contacts your clients surely they too know you are on holiday.

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