I'm posting in here for traffic.
My children's father is an alcoholic. (Now apparently recovered). We've been through court as I stopped unsupervised access as I felt my children weren't safe-and was told by social services, cafcass that I did the right thing in doing so. Basically 2 years of me facilitating supervised contact so he can see his children/my children can see their dad. I want them to see their dad, they love him-I just want them safe. At court where we have agreed to slowly allow him to see the children unsupervised-building up from after school one day a week to sleeping over in 2 months time for one night each week. Great, then ex asks in court if he can take them away on holiday for a week in August (as in a months time!) Slap bang in the middle of him building up to having them more regularly. The judges were quite shocked by this and said it wasnt their place to say and asked if I would be agreeable. Obviously I pointed out they've only seen him an hour or 2 a week for the past year etc. It's far too much far too soon. Our youngest has additional needs(which my ex doesn't really acknowledge/take seriously) and would struggle hugely being taken on holiday to a place he's never been, with family he's not seen a lot of, who don't understand his needs etc and without mummy for 7 days. It would cripple him. My eldest would struggle hugely too. Ex said in court that hes applied to court for permission for this to happen-not exactly sure what he means bu that, please can anyone give me any advice. What can I do to stop this? He has parental responsibility. Oh, the holiday is to family abroad for an anniversary celebration which is why it's so soon.