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WWYD .... think we are being Ghosted

37 replies

Iamnotagoddess · 02/07/2019 20:28

We met a couple about 4 years ago on holiday who live about a hour away from us.

We have kept in touch, and both attended each other’s weddings (hen dos) gone away for weekends together and stayed at each other’s homes a few times.

They are a bit younger than us. I leant the lady my veil for her wedding (she didn’t wear it in the end) but it was clear it was a loan, and it was expensive.

She has some issues and sometimes drinks too much and he can be a bit of a stick in the mud and doesn’t like going on holiday or deviating from his routines meaning the last few times we have arranged to see them they have cancelled. Her mother expressed to me concerns over his behaviour towards her sometimes and DH and I feel that ultimately the union may not last as they seem to want completely different things from life.

DH has limited time at home and our weekends are quite precious so we have kind of just let it go a bit and the last few times we have texted or contacted them we have had no reply. I am a bit concerned tbh that all is ok. But not sure what to do.

If it is just a case of the friendship kind of ending I will be sad if the friendship is over, but I accept sometimes these things happen, but also I would like my wedding veil back as I want to sell my dress at some point.

So what do I do? They could just be busy Confused

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Iamnotagoddess · 02/07/2019 21:32

I did have her mums number and her mum and I got on really well. I thought about messaging her.

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Iamnotagoddess · 02/07/2019 21:33

She had no reason to sell it.

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TixieLix · 02/07/2019 21:37

You say her mother expressed concerns about your friend. Do you have a way of contacting the mother to say you've been trying to get in touch to get your veil returned but have heard nothing and see if she can help?

TixieLix · 02/07/2019 21:38

Sorry cross post

Laiste · 02/07/2019 21:38

I wouldn't do any more messaging, i'd ring. I'd try once every day at different times until someone picked up.

Ring the mum and/or ring the ghosty friend from an unknown phone. You'll get through eventually.

Jakesmumandbump · 02/07/2019 21:46

Do you have any contact details at all for the mother you mentioned? Or social media for any of them? I’m guessing that you’ve already thought of that and the answer is no.

Iamnotagoddess · 02/07/2019 21:47

The couple aren’t on social media.

I will have a look for her mum.

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Jakesmumandbump · 02/07/2019 21:48

Ooh sorry just seen you latest post. I would definitely contact the mother and mention both my concern and veil! Good luck!

sonjadog · 02/07/2019 21:51

I would contact her Mum and tell her you really need your veil back and that you aren't getting any replies. Make it about the veil and not about the friendship and see what that turns up.

CurbsideProphet · 02/07/2019 21:53

Surely the reason to sell the veil is for the money?

Iamnotagoddess · 02/07/2019 21:54

They wouldn’t need the money.

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IvanaPee · 02/07/2019 22:07

I’d ask her mum to find out but I wouldn’t hold my breath for it.

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