to feel fed up of hosting all the get togethers?

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I've got some lovely friends who I've known for years, dc grown up together etc. We all get on brilliantly and dhs are all friends too. Should be great and perfect except that I am the only one of us to ever organise get togethers - bbqs, evenings at ours etc. It's not that they are going anywhere else or having other people over to there homes (as far as I know). Whenever I invite them they are really happy to accept and come then leave saying they'll have us over soon but to no avail. I wait for a bit and then after a few months break and ask them to us again otherwise we'd never all get together. I just feel a bit sad but AIBU to assume someone else would take a turn?

Just say that to them.

‘Would love to see everyone soon but can’t host this time. Anyone else mind hosting or can we go to the park/out for dinner’

Just don’t ask again. It will mean not seeing people for a while, but eventually someone will say ‘When are we having another get-together?’ and you can respond ‘That’s a good idea - let me know what day you want us and we’ll be there. Is there anything we can bring?’

I think stop hosting unless you're happy to continue unreciprocated. Don't mention it to them, because if they had wanted to host, they'd have done it by now.

YANBU, We're always the hosts in our group of friends and family. I do enjoy hosting but it would be lovely to be hosted every now and then. I do think it's quite cheeky to be hosted all of the time, a few of my friends have genuine reasons why they can't (and are generous, gracious guests)but some just know how much effort and expense it is so don't want to do it.

I feel a bit awkward asking them to host. I suppose we could go out but there's quite a lot of dc so might be difficult.
@StillCoughingandLaughing I eventually resorted to that last summer and nothing else was organised until I eventually asked them over last month -10 months later

YABU. Read the dinner party thread. It's a vicious circle and they think you'll wreck their lace edge towels

How do I read the dinner party thread @crustycrab ?

Tbh sometimes not malicious just some people are not organised. Perhaps suggest country park meetup for bbq?

OP, a lot of people don't like hosting.
They consider it a lot of preparation, effort and work.
They just can't be arsed.
They are right.
Hosting can be a lot of effort.
Especially after a busy week.
It's not for everyone.

I did a huge amount pre children and really enjoyed it.
However, as my family grew it dramatically dropped off.
Too much effort.

I wouldn't dream of saying anything.
I just wouldn't host again.

If you'd really like to meet up, suggest a family friendly venue and let everyone meet their.
Like bowling or something similar.
It will certainly be a lot less expensive than hosting and more relaxing for you.

You can still meet up, but without all that effort.

I hate hosting. My cooking skills are very basic and I'd be in a state of panic if I had people over. If we are invited to others houses we go, bring gifts and are very grateful. If people stopped inviting us then I'd completely understand. I prefer meeting out in a restaurant as then there is no pressure to host at all. If I were you I'd just leave it and see if anyone else offers, or just suggest meeting up somewhere for dinner. We don't bring kids though, so don't have the issue of large numbers.

Yanbu!
Everybody (almost) hates hosting! That's why you need to take it in turns.
If you have someone in your group who likes doing it, happy days, if not, then you all take turns.
Op - you were me ten years ago. I stopped. I have new friends now, and we all reciprocate. So much nicer. I do still see my old friends but always at a restaurant or whatever, never in my house.