Summer school guilt

[peg90]

I've just dropped my nearly 4 yo DD off at summer school for the morning and feel so guilty about it!

She loves nursery and goes for 3 hours 5 days a week during term time. Summer school is for 3 hours 2 days a week for the whole of the summer holidays, it's with teachers and some kids she knows but I just can't get over the guilt of ditching her during the holidays .

Please tell me I'm being ridiculous and pathetic, I know she's going to have a fantastic time (she always does) and it means she won't be stuck with my ugly pregnant mug non stop for 7 weeks, and I'll be able to get most of the boring things out the way so that we can have more fun together totally trying to justify it to myself.

Tell me to stop!!!

Don’t put yourself down

I’d say make the most of it - if she clearly enjoys it, try not to feel guilty. She’s getting to spend time with her friends and probably doing fun stuff.

In a few years you might have a teen who prefers to spend summer days in their bedroom (I do!). You’ll feel wistful about the days when she would happily do summer activities!

She'll have a ball! Honestly, don't feel guilt - we all do what we have to in order to make the family's life as good as possible.
Mine's been going 3 days every week during school hols, 8.30-5.30, since she was 4. It's what we have to do so that I can work and afford the fun stuff we do on the other days (and pay the mortgage).
She loves it there, has made great friends. Has developed sharing, taking turns etc (she's an only child).

Presumably she doesnt really know the difference between the holidays and a normal week, except that shes in a different place. She will have a great time and if shes starting school in September it's probably going to be easier if she doesnt get used to being with you 24/7 for weeks beforehand.

Thanks everyone, she'll be having great fun. It's just so hard sometimes

It’s actually a weird thing to feel guilty about. My view of that is you’ve just booked your daughter into a cool holiday club with lots of kids to play with and lots of activities. You know some people who couldn’t afford that would be feeling guilty their child was missing out? Honestly, drop the guilt!

if she's having fun, what's wrong with it?
If she's not even 4, it's not like she is stuck in a classroom having to stay quiet and work. It will make the transition to school easier, and if the alternative is to be at home, she's making the most of the summer.