Pleae help me find a reason

[Over60now]

Firstly let me say I know I am a coward, a people pleaser and probably overthinking this issue, but I would really value some ideas on how to move forward.

I reached my target weight at slimming world over 2 years ago. I have not lost/gained more than a pound up or down in all that time. I still go to meetings because it does help me stay on track and because it's the only place I can buy HiFi bars, which have been my saviour since I started losing weight, as I have a very sweet tooth.

About a year ago I ended up as one of the consultant helpers. I feel pressured to still attend weekly because I know the consultant finds it hard to get people to help on a regular basis...BUT - I am fed up to the back teeth with it all. What I really want to do is go if it suits me, probably just monthly (maybe a bit more often now and then if I run out of HiFi bars), but I find the consultant unapproachable, and quite cold if you aren't one of her favoured ones, and I know I will find that hard to deal with - if of course I can find the courage to give an excuse/reason to leave the helpers team and go less often.

Any ideas as to what I can say to her that won't make me look and sound like a tongue tied blushing schoolgirl? not a good look at aged 64!

I’d say I’d started a class which clashed with the class so you’d be every other week or so from now on. Say it with total confidence, it doesn’t sound like she’s very grateful for your help with her attitude towards you! She’ll find somebody else I’m sure

Well done on reaching your target weight!!
Next step is to stop being a people pleaser!
Be honest. You are a helper not someone who has to be there. It is your choice.
I'd say you have other commitments and you will popping in occasionally as it suits and that you enjoy the meetings but you can't help out any longer.

Don't even speak to her face to face. Send her a message a couple of days after class 'sorry Jane I'm not going to make it for the next few weeks got sooooo much on. TBH things are a bit hectic at home and you should probably find someone else to help out'

Then next time you go arrive just before weigh in ends or switch to another class. As a target member you only need toweigh once a month to maintain membership

If asked why, just repeat 'other commitments'. Don't feel obliged to say any more or get I to discussion.

Well done on reaching your target weight, OP.

Is there a class anywhere else where you can go and get the HIFI bars?

Are you friendly with another member who could get them for you? Although that would put a burden on someone else, maybe.

I think the idea that a PP had, to tell this woman that you've started some other activity which clashes with SW, is the best way forward. You don't have to tell her what it is. Or make up a choir practice? Or a book club? Anything, really.

Thank you everyone - and also thank you for not telling me to just man up!

Taking care of grandchildren?
When you do pop into group as a free target member can't you go to any group you like or is it only this group?

Google says you can buy HiFi bars online...

SunniDay you can go to any group, our local consultant does two options, both on the same day, but I can't really get to the other one due to a (real) commitment

DontCallMeShitley Thanks I've had a look and the ones you can buy outside of slimming world cost a fortune, you can buy from the slimmingworld online site if you are an online member, but to change to doing that means I wouldn't get weighed, so might start to fall off the wagon

You don't need to give a reason or an excuse. You just need to tell her you don't have time for the extra commitment of being a helper any more, but you'll still be popping in from time to time. Then smile and walk away.

You can weigh yourself at home, surely?