To feel hurt

[Orangesodaisyum]

By my long standing male friend who usually texts and rings every single day?he is in a relationship of Six months but the contact never decreased . We have always been in contact even when travelling with work or overseas but he has stopped contact to me personally in the last month but continues to make regular contact through a group chat that we are in. I don’t understand why? There was no argument . There is no threat to their relationship by us being friends but I feel sad and disappointed .

Any words of advice or experience most welcome

Ask him!

Let me get my crystal ball out

When did you last here from him?

His girlfriend as an issue with it. Literally that simple

No personal contact for a month?

I would suggest he feels the relationship is too intense and not compatible with his relationship and is prioritising his girlfriend

Has he previously been long term single? Maybe he has backed off a bit now that he has less free time?

Are you also friends with his partner?

Thanks @FriarTuck. I’m afraid that the answer will be that she has told him to stop contact or worse , that I have outdone my usefulness by being an ear and crutch for him , He will never actually say that though

It's not a given she has put a stop to the friendship.

He may have thought it wasnt right or over stepped boundaries.

Or he may be the type of person that poves a female best friend to fill gap while they are single

You know him better.

I suspect his GF has an issue with him contacting you personally so regularly.
Without realising it you've probably got so used to this contact that you have come to rely on it.
You could address it with him but if he has chosen to drop the contact for a reason, if you speak to him about it and it restarts you will always be wondering whether he's just doing it as you've highlighted it and neither of you want the friendship to suffer.
Friendships change and I think you need to take his cue that he wants yours to change in this way.

She might have "told him", but it's up to him what he does.

When I began to feel that our friendship was too intense and I felt that it Interrupted my relationship , I told him . I asked him to back off a little. I said I felt that it was t appropriate . He didn’t
Respect these boundaries and continued and to My shame I didn’t speak to him about it again. I let it go. Now I feel hurt but ask if I am being unreasonable to feel so?

I don’t know his partner but I feel like I do because of the advice that he has sought about her and their relationship .

Orangesodaisyum
It seems a little strange that you are good friends but yet you've never met his partner? Do you live far away from each other?
You need to think about what you want out of this, things won't just go back to how they were so you need to think of how you want the new normal to look like.

You posts are quite odd OP.

You prioritised him over your relationship. That's odd in itself. Your partner and (probably) his partners are uncomfortable with the friendship. The indicates there was a problem, if 2 separate people felt the same.

You dont know her. You know what he has told you. Which will be impacted by his point of view. He may talk about her buy you only know her through his eyes.

It's coming across as though you either have romantic feelings for him or have become reliant on his attention and did t think about how your partner felt, so you could keep this attention.

Its probably for the best that he has backed off.

Is anyone else thinking of THIS girl when reading the OP's posts???

Been here. It hurts.
Just make sure you aren't there at his beck and call when/if It ends