Steaks

[getmeacupoftea]

I know I'm probably being petty and should let it go, but it's bothered me!

In an effort to make family friends we invited my husbands' work buddy and his OH round for dinner. Went well enough. The friend has come round a couple of times to pick up food and consequently drop off tubs. I'm a chef and have been ordering in some decent quality steaks for them to have, y'know, to be all nicey nicey. This has happened a couple of times.
So friend says he's going away( we're military so it's a bit rubbish for the partners left behind) - in an effort to reach out the friends OH I send a text, saying ".... mentions he's away next week, you are more than welcome to come over even if it's just for a cuppa and to watch some telly if you're bored." Message read, nothing back.
Don't think too much of it. We get in some chateaubriands at work, which are a pretty pricey bit of meat. I drop a message to the friend, saying "hi, when are you back? I've managed to get hold of this for you" with a picture of the steak. Again read, nothing.
Like surely "thanks but no thanks" would suffice? I know I'm being a dick but I think it's just really rude.
Was I too full on or should I just forget about trying to be mates with these people? Ughh

Rude and sounds like she doesn't want to be friends. People are hard work sometimes.

I don't see the problem with just texting you back to say "Thanks for thinking of us, we'll let you know". To just ignore is rude, IMO.

DH and friend are military, friend is away on manoeuvres this week. Do you live on base? (Do they even still have accommodation on base ?) Maybe the partner has her own circle of friends, or alternatively enjoys the alone time. Whichever way, the relationship is with DH and his mate, not you and the other partner (if that makes sense).

You have messaged your partners mate (on manoeuvres) , he’s at work.

I think you’re perhaps a bit over keen. I’d let DH progress this relationship at his own pace.