so my partner is a self employed flooring installer. We have a 2 yr old boy and I am newly pregnant with baby number 2. In the past year we have moved 4 times chasing work for him - we left nelson first where we were settled as he decided a large commercial job in christchurch was going to be better (it wasn't - it didnt work out), so we moved into my parents (forced to because had run out of money because the job didnt make enough to break even), then he was offered full time work in another city so we moved there - then the full time work didnt happen so we moved back to christchurch where are are now and I am happy but he hasn't quite found enough work to get buy. I want to stay and find more work here as I am settled and happy. He wants to take a role he has been offered in yet another town that he thinks will be the best role ever (like he did when we left Nelson), I can see the potential and it could work out great financially but I will be moving away from all family support and he will be working long hours often a good couple of hours away from home and will hardly see our little ones. Am I being unreasonable saying I don't want to move - not that he is listening - he has said he wants to take the job and isn't open to anything else. Help!! Do I give in and go - do I refuse and then I probably have to move again anyway because I can't afford to stay where we are on my own. I feel cornered and upset :-(