To not want the same present twice?

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It’s my birthday today. DH gave me a lovely present (I had sent him a link so it was exactly what I wanted). The kids then gave me ... the same thing! They are too young to buy their own, so he’s basically bought two of the same item just in different colours.

It’s quite a specific item of clothing, not something I’m going to wear often and a bit of a luxury / treat item. I wouldn’t have bought it for myself. And now I have 2!

I’m wondering if I would be unreasonable to get him to return one, I guess the one he gave me so the kids don’t feel bad, though that’s not the colour I wanted hence sending him the link in the first place.

I love how clueless men can be, return the kids one, if they’re too young to buy you a gift then they’re young enough to tell them you changed the colour with a colour changing pack in the wash

Yanbu, that’s a bit lazy. I would explain your feelings and return one.

Ask nicely if you can return one. I think maybe he thought he was doing good.

Wear the one he bought you for special occasions you have in mind for it and wear the other one to go 'nice' shopping or meet friends for a coffee.

I was wearing one of my nicer jackets and I overheard a woman nearby saying 'That jacket looks lovely, I really should wear my nicer clothes more often instead of leaving them in the wardrobe and thinking they are too nice to wear for everyday.

I guess he looked at it as he knew you would like it, I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask to exchange one, but could you keep one off best and use one day to day? Even as a treat it's nice to actually use something rather than it sit in a wardrobe.

What is it? I really want to know 😂
And a link to the item...

On a practical note, return the kids one and keep the one you wanted. If they're young they wont even notice.

It’s a bit outing to post the item as it’s not really a day to day thing and it’s good for summer so I really will only wear it on the odd occasion. Having two is just silly. It would be a bit like having a wetsuit for my occasional foray into surfing on summer holidays and being given a decent quality one ... and then another one.

I'm guessing a scarf.

Return one, the kids one if that’s the one you don’t want. Tell the DC Daddy agreed to swap his present with theirs because there was a flaw in their one (or something similarly face-saving).

Is it one of those giant slippers you put both feet in?

Cashmere sweater?

Return the one you like least.

how could it possibly be outing? are you the only person on the planet who owns it now?

Burkini? Panama hat? Snorkeling set?

Yeah, take it back and get something else. Why wouldn't you?

Well I’ve got many of the same item I love in different colours (bags, dresses, shoes)

You sent him a link for something you really liked so he got it in 2 colours, I think that’s fair enough. Just say you want to return one if it’s really an issue?

Also I doubt it’s outing, it’s a clothing item unless it’s a diamond encrusted dress I guarantee other people own the item

Oh I’ve just always wanted to say “it’s outing” on MN.

It’s not really about the item, I was just wondering if I’m being mean or if he’s been a bit crap.

My DM does this. She will ask what you want for a gift, then you will get a variation on the same theme for the next few gifts. One of the reasons we stopped doing adult gifts. Your DH probably thought he was on to a winner as he knew you liked it.

Not quite the same thing but DH told me that when he was a child his Great Aunt bought him the same book several Christmas's in a row because she thought it was an annual!