Hi, me and my oh are having a bit of a conundrum.
The short of it is that our neighbors (who are in their 60s at least) have their tv on at night between 11pm to at least 2am and with their window open and ours we can hear it and can't sleep.
The long of it is that we moved in last year (mortgaged not rented) and noticed after a day or so that someone was playing their tv REALLY loud. Last year it was MUCH louder as in it felt like it was in the house with us. Could pretty much hear exactly what was being said.
We'd only just moved in and... We are shy people, just didn't want or first communication with or neighbours being a complaint. So during that heatwave weren't able to open our window at all. Got a dyson fan. I don't think i slept well at all during that period.
Anyway. Wind on a year. We have hardly spoken to them. Not due to avoidance. During the week we leave the house at 630am and often aren't back until 8pm.
They are otherwise good neighbours. No other complaints. I don't hear their tv or them much apart from between 11om and 2am at night! And frankly if it wasn't those hours I wouldn't care.
This year they have turned it down so i reckon someone braver must have had a word. Which makes it more awkward. We can still hear it. It's quieter but it still causes us to not be able to sleep with the window open and it gets hot.
Three only thing they can do is turn it off at 11pm or close their window. But then they will be hot and either they use the tv to get to sleep or they are just night birds. And the trouble is, i have looked up and you can see quite clearly the TV which is huge, is right in the window space (sort of a small boxy bay window). So naturally the sound just goes out through the window.
As i said they are older people. We have spoken to the husband more often and I've hardly seen the wife. I can't quite be certain of her name though.
Anyway, she seemed rather on the anxious side when we did meet her. We'd popped around to introduce ourselves. She kind of insinuated she didn't want a... Close relationship with neighbours. I dunno. Like she said she wasn't the type to be calling out hello over the garden fence or something. It was a little weird the way she said it. Very anxious, she was shaking a little. Anyway it appeared to me she might have a few health issues.
Anyway. It's just got to the point where i think we should at least say something. But we feel awkward. I don't want to upset them but i do think having your tv audible between those hours is a little unreasonable. It probably doesn't effect anyone else than is now they've turned it down. But it also isn't fair on us that we have to sleep in a hot room where we don't get good sleep and have to go to work early in the morning.
Anyway. Here is the other thing.
I want to write a nice polite note and post it to them. Because i think then we get to say what we feel more sussinctly and it gives a little bit of distance and time for them to digest it.
But my oh wants to go around himself and talk to them face to face.
But i know him! He'll never say everything. It'll come across in a clipped manner. Not because he's rude, he's just... Well not forthright and trends to mumble. He works in software engineering so is much more used to ordered, logical and numerical thinking and is much better at talking about work stuff with people than normal stuff.
So i know he won't say everything correctly, he never really leaves openings for further conversation sometimes. I dunno. I'm not saying I'm much better, but i do actually work with the general public so used to talking to a wider range of people not just other boffs.
Anyway i just think a note is less in your face, doesn't put people in any awkward positions where they have to say something now and allows them to think on it.
Also it means that they don't get to just say no so easily because of they do start with the excuses or whatever my oh will just not know how to react.
If i did it f2f I'm sure i'd probably do a better job. But my social anxiety plays up then (I'm better socially than my oh but have anxiety, he didn't have so much anxiety but is crap socially lol) and i don't want to do it that way anyway.
But i don't want to let my oh do all the talking. Because i think... It's just be weird especially on the doorstep.
We could invite them over but after not speaking to them much (just hardly bump into each other) but then... That would i think be awkward to suddenly bring it up in our house. With all our cats running around.
I think the only things we've spoken is to pick up mail we've missed. Although i really have gone to collect as my oh gets home a little before me. And i imagine he never stops to just chat, which is his way.
Although the mail hasn't been going to them lately. Dunno why... Maybe they been refusing it?
Sigh
Are we being unreasonable in the first place? And how should we deal with it? They are seemingly nice people. I don't want to seem like I'm... Lacking sympathy. But they're tv is literally right there by the window. It's about as big as the window itself. Not that I've had a good look. I just looked up once to see where it was coming from and it's a rather obvious big black rectangle.