To wait or not to wait 1 period after MMC to try again?

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AIBU for wanting to try again before my first period after a D&C 34 days ago?

Background story is first pregnancy and first miscarriage, I'm 35 so don't feel like I have all the time in the world. Dr said to wait one period before trying again to "let the womb heal".

Thing is that I've been waiting patiently for my period, it's day 34 and I just got a solid smiley on OPK 🤦🏻‍♀️

This means realistically my period won't come in another 2 weeks? And I ovulate late so another month until we could try! If we don't try now that is.

Opinions and examples from ladies whom have gone through this? I'm really scared to have another miscarriage so I want to do what the Dr tells me but on the other hand I read conflicting stories about other advice to try again as soon as you feel fine.

My D&C was painless and I haven't been bleeding (just spotting very little) throughout this entire time. No pain.

Oh and I don't know if this matters but I forgot to mention: I live abroad from the UK and my OBGYN is quite old and very conservative. When I got pregnant the first time (sadly miscarried at 9 weeks), her advice to me when I did the first scan at 6 weeks was to not have sex for 3 months and to not go to the gym or work out. Also said to not fly (I was booked to go back for a weekend the day after the scan).

I am completely healthy, so I thought this advice was strange and just put it down to cultural and maybe generation difference.

So this is why I'm a bit about her advice, and maybe not trying before the first period is also a bit conservative?

I do read about MN ladies though who caught straight after MC but had chemical pregnancies so I'm a bit wary!

This forum is helping lots when you don't really have anyone to ask x 🤯

I did not wait. I conceived immediately after a 24 week mc and had a healthy baby.

@ChristmasArmadillo I'm so sorry to hear about such a late mc, must have been devastating! Mine was 'just' at 9 weeks 😔 happy and hopeful to hear you had a healthy baby after though 😄 May I ask how old you were?

I didn’t wait, my son was born 8 months after my mmc. He was 4 weeks early but that’s unrelated. My midwife said the reason they ask you to wait is to make dating the new pregnancy easier. I don’t know if that’s true, but my son is healthy.

I always thought that advice was so that a subsequent pregnancy could be dated. As for not flying, going the gym etc. seems a bit weird. Maybe seek a second opinion? Also I have a very healthy DD2 after a miscarriage at 8 weeks, all the best to you

I was the same age as you when my first pregnancy ended in a MMC at 10 weeks. I didn't have a D&C. I did wait until after my period as I wanted to feel that everything was back in balance and I would be accurate with dates.

Happily the next month I went on to have a healthy pregnancy.

Normally I would say follow the advice of your doctor, but it does sound like they’re perhaps taking an old fashioned view. Do you have time to see a second opinion?

The only reason you are told to wait is, in truth, so that you can accurately date the subsequent pregnancy. It is really ok not to wait. Good luck to you.

I got pregnant straight away after my mmc, which was discovered at 12 weeks. After the medical management I waited until I’d stopped bleeding, I did have a scan to make sure all the products of conception were gone. I then just cracked on as I knew your fertility increases after a miscarriage.
I believe they want you to wait so they can date the pregnancy. I just had a dating scan instead.
We’ve had no issues and a healthy baby. Good luck x

I couldn’t have waited after I lost a baby at 29 weeks.The hole was too big. My GP said “well there’s no evidence one way or another” despite everyone else saying wait. I’d been quite unwell because of a haemorrhage and serious infection but my beautiful daughter, conceived almost immediately, is 21 this year. It was probably two months afterwards as I’d been in hospital for ten days but certainly didn’t hang around as everyone was suggesting. I needed a baby too much.

Don’t forget it’s only recently people even knew they were pregnant that early. Nobody used to wait or really think much about miscarriages as most women didn’t know. Go for it.

Thanks guys thanks guys your stories help a lot xxx

Aren’t you supposed to be more fertile directly after a miscarriage?

I also heard that the reason why the ask you to wait is to make dating the pregnancy easier. What do you care about that? I’d go for it.

I had a MMC with my first pregnancy. Had a D&C as my body wouldn't recognise it had miscarried. Mine was also painless with minimal bleeding.

I left it a period before we started trying again. Partly so I could try to heal emotionally and partly for the physical healing. I wanted to give my body the best chance at holding a bean.

I fell pregnant 5 months later and am now 32 weeks. I wish you all the best, be kind to yourself and do what feels right for you.

Maybe just have sex and see what happens, don't put pressure on yourself this month. X

@Mondayblues7 thank you for your story! So happy for you now! Makes me so happy hearing all the positives 😄

I have booked an appointment with the Dr today for a scan to check if there's any clots left and then ask if the lining looks good enough for us to try this cycle or not, and take her advice.

From my consultant told me and from what I’ve read, if you’ve had a natural miscarriage there’s no reason not to try again before you get your period back, but if you’ve had a D&C it’s better to wait until you’ve had a period so your womb lining has built up enough to support a pregnancy as it would have been scraped away during the procedure. You have my every sympathy, I am in a similar position waiting for my period to return after an erpc - it’s frustrating but I figure I’d rather wait a couple of extra weeks for my period than try straightaway and risk another miscarriage because my body wasn’t ready x

The only reason I was advised against it was for dating purposes. As it happened my pregnancy following a mmc took a few months and also resulted in mc, but that was to do with an undiagnosed condition. I know other women who have conceived straight away and had successful pregnancies. Dont pressure yourself, but also dont feel guilty, you know you x Good luck x

I am also wondering the same, I had a D&c 4 weeks ago,only stopped bleeding a week ago but have been having unprotected sex. What are the chances of getting pregnant after a d&c and is it ok to try before period arrives

I had a MMC at 16 weeks 7 years ago. I'm sure we were told to TTC straightaway if we wanted to and that you are very fertile after a MC. We waited a few months tho and I got pregnant first time 5 months later.
Good luck.