My DF is a wealthy and generally generous man. He is getting married in a few weeks abroad to a lovely woman. He has invited us to the wedding and paid accommodation but not flights for myself, DH and our 2 DC. We bought flights last year as soon as possible and managed to get return flights for around £600. We have also had to hire a car for the week, and 2 car seats (£200) plus transport to and from the airport (£110). And obviously we will be paying for food and drink whilst there. We are happy to pay this and are just calling it our family holiday for this year as it is similar to what we would have paid for a break anyway.
DF is having a stag do this weekend again abroad and invited my DH. We expressed when this was mentioned that he would probably not be able to go as obviously that is more cost for us and I have only recently returned to work from mat leave so we have been skint for a bit and are just getting back on our feet. DF offered to pay flights and accommodation for the stag for DH. So he agreed to attend as a. He quite wanted to go and b. He knew that DF would want him to go. They are playing golf daily with course fees of up to £100 per round, eating out at fancy restaurants and generally going all out.
One of the stag attendees has insisted that the my split the cost of DFs food drink and golf for the full time as he has covered the accommodation and flights. The problem is he has done this while they are there. So DH and I haven’t accounted for this extra spend (and the trip is costing more than he expected for his own spends anyway). There are only 3 other stags to split DFs share so they are spending a lot more each, its not just a few quid and we are both feeling a bit anxious about the cost.
AIBU to think the stag who suggested splitting DFs costs should have mentioned this before now?!