Is it too early for Christmas

[wetweather]

Ok, I'm fully prepared that I am being unreasonable, just need a dose of salts.

Scenario / my parents every year go my sisters for Christmas. I've invited them to mine 10 years on a trot to be told "oh we have already arranged to go to DSIS". So I snuck in early early this year, to be told "oh we might be go abroad this year".

And I'm pissed, I feel a bit crappy, so as to not to drip feed. One Christmas they were last minute not well enough to go to DSIS, so I did meals on wheels on Christmas Day. I'm good enough for that, but not actual attendance. I do nice food, I have a nice home, a nice family. It just feels like a complete rejection as if we are not good enough.

It doesn't help that I don't get on with my DSIS, she just don't like the fact I was born.
She wanted to be an only child, and by parents going there every single year and refusing to go anywhere else, it feels like she is getting her wish of "only child".

So I am being over sensitive, am I being unreasonable, is what they do perfectly normal??

Is your Dsis married, have children?

Stop doing all the appointments and pharmacy runs op! Make it clear that what you've asked for isn't unreasonable and you expect your sister to step up and do her share.

I'd kids ask you why they never come, say "ask your grandparents. I don't know." Hopefully if the kids ask, they'll be shamed into a reply.

I get this a bit with my own parents. They will feel like they spend a lot of time with you so they will in their heads feel bad and so feel they should spend the holiday with your sister.
They will forget that they are spending time with you as you are doing everything for them and that it makes you feel bad as the holidays are special.
I get cross as that's my role in the family too.

Are they doing it to give you a break op? If they are perfectly nice the rest of the time maybe there is no malice in it. Just that they know Christmas is a lot of work and you already do so much for them they go to the sisters so not to add to your load

I won't shirk my responsibilities

Caring for your parents isn't your responsibility Op any more than it is your sisters.
Geographical location should have little bearing on burden share.

Start being too busy to run around for them, suggest they get your sister to help.for a change.

Stop asking them and start doing more for yourself. Life is short.