To plan something else when my plans changed

[pinkfizz35]

I am currently on maternity leave at the moment but have to pop into work next week to collect something. My friend who also works there suggested I pop in near close of business and we go for dinner and drinks afterwards.
I told DH I had plans that day and put it in the calendar.

A few weeks later he said to me that his friend from abroad is home and wanted to meet up the same day I had my plans. He then realized that I had made plans so told his friend no he wouldn't be able to.

My friend has now cancelled on me so technically I could go into work that morning and be free to allow DH go ahead with his plans but I haven't had time off let alone a Saturday off for myself in ages whereas he has had quiet a few.

AIBU to book something else to do on the Saturday now or should I let him go out with his friend? I feel I'm entitled to do something else on the Saturday but I also can hear DH thinking I'm being unreasonable.

Assuming that the friend from abroad isn't going to be here long, I'd tell dh to go out and take a different night for myself another time

Given that it's his friend home from abroad and not Bob down the road that he could see any time I would let him go ahead with his plans

I'd tell him so he could see his friend.

Will he have another chance to catch up with his friend? If not, I’d let him go ahead with his plans but make sure you schedule a replacement time for you to do something else.

I think being as it’s a friend from abroad I wouldn’t arrange anything else for that night and would let DP meet his friend,but I would definitely arrange something for another night so that you can still have time for yourself.

I would tell him so he can see his friend but would also make sure that you get some free time over a w/e soon to compensate.

I would tell him, so that he could meet his friend from abroad, but would expect to have the missed "free time" on another day

Could you get a babysitter and go with Dh to meet up with his friend? If not I'd probably just tell him to go out but I'd arrange to meet friends the following weekend instead. And do that more often for yourself. He can't be the only one to get time away for himself.

YABU. Let him have this Saturday and you have next.